I tried to involve my future MIL simply because she doesn't have a daughter. Then she decided (6 months before our wedding) to get married (to a man she has only known for about 9 months) A MONTH BEFORE US!!!!! uhhhhh.... she is insane and rude and selfish. she has not idea that it maight even sort of be offensive. no clue.... So if you have a sane MIL, you should thank your lucky stars