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Amy..do you have any other pics of all the bridesmaids together? Love love love all those colors together and trying to convince FI that bridesmaids wearing different colors is not a bad or scary thing... Thanx

Quote: Originally Posted by daniepps Mine did absolutely nothing!!!!! LOL But if he's asking for something to do, having him pick out things for him and the groomsmen is good. I can't think of anything else. LUCKY I love the fact that he wants to be involved....but...sometimes I just want to be able to say..nope...can;t do that...has to be this way... Then he'll ask why...and I can only say Just Because that's how it is.... He feels I'm being controlling... Just venting

Quote: Originally Posted by MaggieandJay I basically just ask his opinion on some things here and there and I told him he can pick out his shirts and pants for himself and the groomsmen. I also have him picking out the gifts for our parents and his brother (Who is his BM) Also he is very excited about the Donkey and has come up with a scavengar hunt photo contest idea (Again I just let him roll with it) He wants to get little stuffed donkeys to put in the OOT bags with a list of pictures you have to get of the stuffed donkey doing silly things. For Example: Donkey with a beer, Donkey on a random strangers chair while they are sunbathing, donkey at dinner, Donkey with the live donkey etc etc. The everyone will send us their pics after we all get back and we will crown a winner. Again His idea and I thought it might entertain people and they could have some fun with it. AHHH my FI cracks me up sometimes. That is Freaking awesome!!!! I can totally see how that would make for some amazing pictures...I love it

Question for everyone.....what did FI do during the planning process? I like being involved in everything ( I like making the calls..emails...the forums...looking things up) but I am NOT Type A at all...the other day he asks what he can do...and I was kind of t a blank...I let hom start looking for clothes for him and GMs...what else are "safe" things for him to do?

Quote: Originally Posted by amandamarieb Thanks ladies....well here it goes. Let me know what you think: I like the 1st one better but we'll probably use the second for chapsticks and things like that. They look really good! I love the colors together....that's my next step...figure out what colors I want...

Quote: Originally Posted by gingerlover36 I emailed with Kiara earlier this week so she is def there still I just got an email from Kiara about an hour ago...deposit is processed...wedding confirmed..all wedding info sent to me...Now I get to start planning a wedding

Right there with you..I joined in June and I am constantly on here...I didn't go on once all last night (was on all day) and I was having slight withdrawals before I signed back in this morning

Quote: Originally Posted by jazz04 I didn't see the updates on their website. Could you Email me at [email protected]. Thank you Just sent it over

Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart HAHA, I know right? Well I know Kiara is still there, she's been emailing me from her work email all week. Glad to hear soemone is hearing back from her....I sent my deposit in about 10 days ago and have emailed a couple of times to make sure it was recieved (since they haven't charged my card yet) and I can't get a response....

Quote: Originally Posted by taylorwd Wow, so my experience with DW.com has not been perfect but it has by no means been like what you all are experiencing. I never would have found my resort without my TA. We traded ideas back and forth for a month until we found just the right one. I credit her completely with the resort we ended up with. It's true she didn't know much about weddings at my resort, but when it came to all the travel stuff, she was on it. Just remember, these are TA's; they're not WC's. Once I came to that realization myself and stopped relying on her for wedding info, we had a great relationship. She got us a great deal and fixed any travel hiccups that came up, and there were quite a few! I can't believe I'm reading all of these awful reviews....my TA has been so great. I must have lucked out because she was recommended by a friend that got married in Costa Rica last year. Within 10 minutes of her being "assigned" to me..she had called me AND emailed me. When I ask for hotel info..I have it back by the end of the night. She had pricing and packages worked out same day also. As I'm writing this..I just got an email from her with information for a resort I might want to switch to for honeymoon week..I asked for this late last night. <text removed: against rules>

Quote: Originally Posted by thefuturemrslutz It will FLY by! I can't believe I have been engaged almost a year! Well, the trips/excursions are ALL included in my package, so I think I got the best of both worlds. Ok, to clarify...the base rate for the basic room right now is $685 per night. We researched and researched and negotiated and negotiated with my TA...and got it down to $460 per night ($230 per person). We also booked 25 rooms, so that helped I'm sure. There are only 2 types of rooms at Le Blanc...Royal Deluxe (ocean view and lagoon view) and Royal Governor's Suite. We upgraded to the Royal Governor's Suite because it has a bigger balcony and a bigger area (Ryan and his groomsmen will get ready in here). I think the look of the room is exactly the same though. EXCEPT, the balcony size...I think there is basically no balcony. That is why we upgraded...AmyF can give you all the details though. She and KatKen. I am just going off pure speculation. I am not sure if the rooms are as nice as AS or not, but I have heard the food and drinks are amazing. I think it is true gourmet food. Once again though...pure speculation! Even though trip advisor sucks, they have some great pictures of Le Blanc from guests. I think there are like 1500 or something. Another cool resort I loved was the Banyon tree Mayakoba. It is so fabulous, but I do not think it is all inclusive. I thought you meant $685 PER PERSON PER NIGHT....I was thinking there is NO way that could happen....$685 for 2 people per night is not cheap...but a lot more doable Right now FI is all good to stay at AS the full 2 weeks...if that's the case...I'll be fine! If I get enough great reviewes...maybe we'll switch...

Quote: Originally Posted by thefuturemrslutz I am getting married at Le Blanc in 3 weeks! AHHH so I will let you know. FI and I were TOTALLY TOTALLY TOTALLY against getting married "in" Cancun...we preferred the Riviera Maya. BUT this resort is so fabulous (from what I have seen)...and they supposedly treat you like royalty there. If the wedding coordinators are any proof of that, then this place is going to be amazing. They have gone over the top to help me with the wedding. I will let you know in 3 weeks how it is. From what I have heard, the resort is "anti-spring break"...very relaxing and serene...We will be there with 50 super wild friends (haha), but I will let you know how it is when we stay for a few days on our own. I know they are also running a special right now where you get $1500, basically in cash. You can use it at the spa, at the casino at Moon Palace, on wine upgrades, etc. We had booked too early for this promotion, but the resort and our TA was so nice...they surprised us with it in our travel documents. It is VERY expensive ($685 per night), but you can definitely find a deal. My guests are paying $230 per night, per person. I will report back to you in 3 weeks. You also get access to all the other Palace resorts. I think they have more nightclubs and stuff like that. SO it will be cool to venture out to the other resorts at night....and drink for free! Only 3 weeks away...I'm so jealous...I have FOREVER! I love the planning...but all the planning makes me so excited to just DO I was looking at the website and saw that promotion..that seems like a great deal..I think I read you can also use it for the trips/excusions (I could be wrong I was looking really fast) What room are you in that is $685 per night...that is A LOT..I know it's our honeymoon...but I'm not sure that's possible...$230 is way more reasonable..but if the room for $230 is "less" than the room we have at Azul..I don't know that it makes sense to switch....We'll see what my TA says....

Quote: Originally Posted by dstinationdrmr I would say ask now and put cost on the table up front. So, there's something you can start working on....their dresses and shoes! If they say they can't handle the cost, at least you know you extended the invite to them and they don't feel left out. They may surprise you and be all in. I would say deal with it when it comes along. I was paranoid that people's feelings were hurt if they weren't invited, but most understood. Also, know that everyone won't come. We sent out 100 STDs (about 200 people) and less than 50 have booked. On the flip side, don't invite people you don't want to be in close quarters with or people you don't think will mesh well with others. Since it's gonna be a small wedding you WILL have to deal with everyone there on a more than usual level compared to a large wedding. I completely agree with AmyB about having people "on your side." That way some of the battles can be fought for you by others AND a lot of the chattering will only occur in the background. You may never hear all of people's concerns and that would be great if that remained the case. Let someone else deal with all of that. I know for sure 1 of the girls is in...90% sure on the 2nd...it's the 3rd I'm wondering about... I think I'll send a "welcome" email with ideas for dresses and colors, etc...and basic prices (my website info, etc...) and go from there The good news is FI and I sat down last night and cut our guest list waaaaaaay down...these are all people we think will actually go and all people who we really want there If it turns out that a couple of them are nos...we can re-evaliuate and maybe invite from the B list....

Quote: Originally Posted by rkf1046 Send to me please! [email protected] ~thanks, becki Just sent it over

Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart UM YES! Fun!!! Sorry to be blunt but you're wrong! Especially in February when you're going, it will be pretty dead out there. D and I went March 2008 and stayed in Cancun @ The Royal and we were worried as well, that freakin' hotel was EMPTY and there weren't really that many people out in the city either. Spring break is end of March/April I believe. I think I just think that way of Cancun in general....What was the main difference between the 2 resorts? btw..just friend requested you on facebook...I swear I'm not a stalker..just figured you would have more wedding pics on there

Congratulations welcome!

Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart Yes I went to Le Blanc on Katherine's recommendation!! I forgot to thank you for that, I am so in love with that place I can't wait to go back! Maybe we can take a joint anniversary/birthday trip next year!!! July 2011!!! You two totally made me email my TA and request info on that resort as maybe our 2nd week switch...as of right now we have decided to stay in one place...and FI doesn't really want to go to Cancun (I don't know that I for sure do either) All I think is Spring Break and craziness...convince me I'm wrong

Quote: Originally Posted by cross On a side note, my 2 BFFs have already told me that they will take care of any situations she tries to create. I just hope the photographer is around to get pictures if happens. I would love to see them take her down. Sorry I got a little carried away! That's awesome

Quote: Originally Posted by miss_delerium That was a really weird time. It was 10 years ago - I was 19 and had just moved out with my BF. My mom's side of the family (of which I'm also the oldest grandchild) is very religous and didn't agree that I was "living with a boy" that I wasn't married to, so they all kinda disowned me - INCLUDING my mom! (my dad was the only person who offered any kind of support). My grandpa actually told my mom that he didn't want me at their place for Christmas dinner!! So I don't really want to invite ANY of her side of the family. They have all since mellowed out, as their kids grew up and they've been exposed to how things acutally work in the world now - hello it's not 1950 anymore, but I still haven't forgotten how I was treated for 3 years of my life. Sorry for kinda ranting and hi-jacking your thread Hi-Jack Away...isn't the whole point of this forum for advice and bridal rants It's much easier talking to other B2Bs going through similar things than some of your friends that aren't.

Quote: Originally Posted by miss_delerium This is the perfect way to look at it! Now if only you could tell my mom that... I'll tell your mom if you want to tell mine and FI's families.....it's so much easier to tell people you've never met "bad" news than people you do know..

Quote: Originally Posted by miss_delerium I understand this situation! My godfather/uncle who sent me this: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...ml#post1354465 book, I didn't really want to invite. I don't think he'd come, but on the off-chance he did, I didn't want him there. But then my mom was all upset because its her brother. Why do wedding invites have to get so political? OMG!!! That is horrible...I don't even know what to say to that.... what did your mom say after he sent that to you? does she get why you might not want him there?

Thank you to everyone for "disinviting" advice...pretty sure I'm just going to let it ride...and the next holiday or family get together, I will casually mention that we have scaled our wedding way down to be immediate and wedding party only Not sure how FI will want to handle his side....but he sees his family less than I see mine...so..hopefully...that should be ok too Hopefully, we will do an AHR later on that summer (2012)..we have an AMAZING backyard and could do an open house/all day event so it's not too overwhelming...and basically just have to get a big tent and rent some table and chairs....but...that can all be decied later...

We are hoping to have some sort of AHR after we get back...August of 2012...but it's all about budget and that's soooo far away that I can only focus on so much at a time....2 years from now I have no idea who I'm going to invite. If it was my 1st wedding...it's be different. And I feel bad because it IS FI's 1st (AND ONLY) wedding...but...unless he wants to ask his parents for more $$$ (especially when they haven't yet confirmed how much they are actually contributing and my mom has already given her donation (PLUS bought us our house so she's good!))...I don't feel as bad as I probably should. Part of the reason we are doing destination is to get away from all the traditional wedding and guests, etc....so inviting all of his family (some I have never even met) doesn't make total sense to me.... Sorry for ranting

Quote: Originally Posted by fallfromgrace I am facing the same issue. I have a grandmother that dosen't really like me, but that wants to come to our wedding. I am not sure I really want her there, but it becomes and issue with my own parents. How do I tell them I don't want her there? It is a tough decision. I'm kind of in a similar situation since the family I'll be "dis"-inviting is all on my Dad's side...he passed away about a year and a half ago... Him and my mom have been divorced for awhile and my mom doesn't get along with his side of the family.. If my dad were still alive...of course all would be invited (I'd also probably have a bigger budget--which sounds horrendous...but it's the truth) and if it was a bigger event, everyone could stay away from each other (which is how it was at my 1st wedding). But because it IS a vacation and a smaller group..it should be up to you (and me) who we want there... I want my mom over my dad's family.... I guess what it comes down to...it's OUR wedding....we make the rules

Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart I know you B2B's don't want to stray from wedding talk but if you don't mind indulging me, what do you all do for work? I know what Amanda does but that's about it! I'm a Glorified Secretary I'm a District Sales Assistant at Paychex (a payroll and human resource company). Been here over 8 years..actually love my job and the company and most everyone I work with (there are a selct few I would like to punch in the face, but..that's life ) What do you do?