I feel your pain! LOL!! I'm getting married in April and only a 2 have booked. It's not going to be a huge group, but I keep getting "We're going to", "We are looking foward to it", or "We can't wait" from the other people. BUT these same people haven't booked yet. We're taking a cruise and getting off the boat and getting married on the beach in Antigua. I want to plan some sort of island tour after the ceremony with the whole group and it's hard to plan and get a price from people when you can't tell them how many are going. I'm a real planner also, I like everything figured out in advance and ready to go. I started planning my cruise this past May and booked mine in June so I could start paying on it. Good Luck!!