Oh my friend, do fret I know that you will work it out. Definitely assemble the bags when you are there (the main reason I asked the bridal party to get there Wed or Thurs.) That way your contents, especially the bags can lay flat. Also, not to put all the burden on your and FI, see if your daughter would take a suitcase and/or any other person that will be there at least a day or 2 before the wedding. As far as menu choices FI and I picked the International menu, as we thought it would give the best fit to our guests. Nevertheless, there is always the 24hr room service ;-) that will be a fail safe for those picky picky persons.