Laura, Totally get it. I know most of us wanted a small AHR and ended up with a big reception. I kind of feel like we are all in the same boat! I know that my AHR (it's this weekend) is not exactly what I envisioned either but I am trying to consider everyone else too. A lot of our guests have traveled to celebrate with us and if they want a fancy party then so be it. I am going to have a great time either way. But the dj better not play the hokey pokey! lol Can't wait to see the pictures from your AHR! Enjoy your weekend away!