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This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

This is THE best forum for a bride to be....you'll find it all here! CONGRATS!

Quote: Originally Posted by beaz2be First and foremost I LOVE that STFU guy. I wish I could just keep him in my pocket and use him at all times necessary. I totally feel you on this one. Lucky for us in a way, my fiance's family and mine live on opposite sides of the continent - so no matter what 1/2 the wedding has to get on a plane. This way it's "more fair" for everyone. hahaha I only have one suggestion on how to deal with this. I'm sure there are many wiser and more reasoned people on here with better advice. But my turn of phrase is something along the lines of "we totally understand those who are unable to attend and we thank you for supporting us in our choice to celebrate our marriage and our vows to one another this way".... something like that. I think it's just a gentle reminder that this day is about our marriage and our love for each other, your role (Mr. X complainer) is to show up and support that - IF YOU CHOOSE TO DO SO!! sorry, that may have gotten tangent-y... but people's judgeyness has gotten to me as well since we sent out our STDs too. Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart OH just know that this has happen to us all! I'm not kidding, probably every destination wedding bride has experienced a guest or family member complaining or voicing an opinion. My own mother and brother did not come to my wedding in Mexico. To each, their own and everyone is different but people need to realize a wedding is about you and your fiance, celebrating and declaring your love. The number of attendees to this celebration and union doesn't matter at all. On your wedding day, I promise you, you won't be thinking about who wasn't there, or who thought you should have done it differently or who didn't approve of blah blah blah... I promise you that the feeling you will have on your wedding day is solely focused on your then husband and this blissful floating feeling. Wendy knows! I can tell she felt the same way It's an unbelieve experience... ahhhh I'm so jealous mine is over! My response was a little less PC, to anyone who commented, just told them, "it's my wedding and our decision was this, if you can't make it, we totally understand." I think us past brides all mentioned how over emotion we were during our planning stages, it's natural Sorry for going off, I just don't want you to stress or worry, those complainers won't be hatin' life when they are floating in the pool with a margarita now will they? Thank you beaz and kittenheart!!! I'm just confused at the nerve of people. We KNEW going into this that travel for no one, ourselves included, would be free. I guess I'm just starting to see people's true colors late in life. Kittenheart, you put it in perspective when you said even your Mom didn't show up. I'm sorry to hear this and it makes me sad. :-( In the end, you both are right....those who were meant to be there and want to be, WILL. I'm not really stressed, just more irritated than anything. But I'm moving past it right now! And beaz....I've wanted to tell more people to in the past 48 hours than I have in my whole three decades on this earth! I LOVE that sign...I feel empowered using it! I'm letting off agression through smilies....how passive/agressive is that LOL

Afternoon my "forum friends!" ;-) I was just popping in to vent and whine for a tad. We sent our STD's out on Monday and we've officially got the buzz going for our wedding. I'm amazed at how many family members have been so critical. Mature adults (or so I thought) have made every comment ranging from "Those rooms are too small' to "Why isn't flight included in the rate" to "Kinda selfish to make everyone fly just to see you marry." I know I shouldn't be so sensitive, and I'm usually not, and I know from reading all the earlier posts that many of you ladies were met with similar negativity. But I'm trying to be a gracious and polite bride and instead I feel like telling people to Shut the F**K up and just stay home if they feel burdened. I'm so tired of responding to people, "Well I'm sorry but just know that we are NOT offended if you cannot make it and we totally understand." I feel like people don't realize that this is an optional attendance and no gun is being placed to their head for them to fly to beautiful Mexico to attend our wedding. Anywho, I know I should suck it up and drive on......but I'm just sick of all the complaining and commentary and know that there are a few more to come. I had to vent because I feel like you chicks are the only ones who get it. I'm thankful for this space to do that from time to time......:-)

Quote: Originally Posted by dstinationdrmr Thanks to all of you who complimented our centerpeces. We do plan on putting flowers in them FYI, but my sister says she likes the white box better. I'm torn and my mom wants whatever I want. So, for those of you who looked at them, which one do you like better the bronze or the white? I may use both, but if more people like the white I may just incorporate more of them. Meridith....I couldn't view your centerpeices because I cannot open your attachment (probably too few points on my end) but just know that if you've got all these otehr ladies on here to thumbs up them, you are probably golden! ;-)

Quote: Originally Posted by thefuturemrslutz Bigbop-What is your email address? What happened to Chong? Why was she banned? Hey Lindz! I pm'ed you my email addy. Sorry, I've been MIA. Thank you soooooo much in advance!!! Also, I LOVE your photos! Very chic and romantic! What a lifetime treat! :-)

So beautiful, loving, and chic!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by taylorwd YAY my TA!!!! 2 hours--ha! Remember I warned you she was a talker! In all that running my mouth, I forgot to simply say....THANK YOU for recommending her! I was so excited that I forgot why I was writing you back! LOL I really appreciate it and you don't know how much your refferal has put my mind at ease! I aprpeciate it!

Quote: Originally Posted by taylorwd YAY my TA!!!! 2 hours--ha! Remember I warned you she was a talker! She is but I soooooo didn't mind! It turns out, she is from N. Cal as well and lived in my city for several years so we blabbed about local restaurants for awhile. LOL Compared to how impersonal and unable to communicate our last TA was, Karilyn was a breath of fresh air! She explained the why's and what's of everything and totally made us feel at ease. It was actually warming speaking to her. Our last TA was just trying to get is to sign stuff without explaining things and when we wanted to decrease our group rate she almost appeared upset with us. It was drama for no reason. Anywho, I've already professed my love for Karilyn to my FI! LOL He's happy to see me happy for once with this whole TA ordeal and didn't mind listening to the blab for 2+ hours. lol Quote: Originally Posted by amybermuda Glad you got a good TA. They will make things easier for you. I just decided on a Honeymoon location! We are staying at the Excellence Playa Mujeres Aug 28-Sept 4. It looks so awesome. Secrets Maroma was about the same price, and thats where I thought I would go, but I really fell in love with the Excellence. I am using a friend's TA who is great, so much better than my crazy wedding lady. She said any sale any drop in price we will get, no need to rebook or anything. Have a great weekend everyone! I will be working on my planning thread this weekend. I need to do it now or else I will just forget everything! Thanks Amy, I'm feeling more at ease already!

Mornin' Ladies!!!! Just stopping in to say hello to you all and to wish you all a wonderful weekend of planning and task - doing! ;-) I was checking in on you guys via the last few pages and it sounds like everyone is in full progress mode. I was able to get reassigned to a new DW.com TA, Karilyn Barnett, and I freakin' LOVE her already!!!! We spent two hours on the phone the other night and she has revived my enthusiam about the wedding and the AS. My previous TA was gracious enough to send a "best wishes to you" email to us, which was kind, yet akward. Anywho, we are moving along and I've got an alchemy out on etsy for our STD's. I am actually feeling behind the curve ball, because we officially have less than 12 months left, but it is what it is........ Anyway, I just wanted to stop in and say hello and wish you all a fantastic weekend!!! xoxoxo

Quote: Originally Posted by thefuturemrslutz I sent out an email to everyone that said they MAY go, insisting that they go ahead and book. With my group deadlines, we had to have people place deposits, etc, so we did not lose the rooms. I will be glad to send it to you guys. We got 90% of our rooms booked within 1 month of the email!! Hey Lindz......would you mind sending me that email We are sending out out STD's this month and I'd like to be able to convey to people in detail the signifigance of booking early. I would so appreciate it......

Quote: Originally Posted by amandamarieb Ok so looking back, maybe I misunderstood a bit. I blocked out 25 rooms (but we've already booked 27, yay!) We had a month to get enough people to put down a 5k deposit. So I guess that works out to $200 per room. I asked guests to put down a deposit and then we paid whatever was left of the 5k. Since some people paid in full straight away, ended up only being about 1200 and we're getting that refunded this month now that I have 50 some odd guests booked! Whoo hoo! First of all, Congrats on getting that many rooms booked! I hear that's a tough job in itself. ;-) I just wanted to share with you that I too am using DW.com and was told by our TA that we needed not put down deposits for our guests unless they do not do so within 30 days of notification. We were told that each guest must place a deposit of $200 per room and that if they do not, we will be responsible for paying the deposits. It sounds like we may have received conflicting information, but I could be wrong. Anywho, I hope this adds to the "info pot" in some way or another. :-)

Quote: Originally Posted by KittenHeart Also, got some more pictures my photog put up on a website, these are temporarily up if you wanna check them out Amy + Daylen 2010 WOW!!!!!!! You're pictures are amazing! You look like a glammed out pin-up doll!!!! Just glamourous! I got all hyped up viewing your pictures! (So much so that I cannot stop using the exclamation points.) lol Just beautiful!

Quote: Originally Posted by MaggieandJay Oh never fear! I am about where you are. I actually found that invitation on the internet the day after I got engaged! I am waiting on my TA to get back from her own vacation to do the final booking on our date. Right now may 30th is open and hopefully I can get this date and resort set in stone by end of this week! I am going to shoot for the beach wedding and I am not too picky about reception location I have been scouring the web for STD's and have finally narrowed it down to four possibilities. If I can get them out by July 1st, I think I'll be in good shape. I guess I should put together a to-do list soon.