Here's the deal: there is no possible way to please everyone, so you just have to please yourselves and do what YOU want to for YOUR wedding. If they want to come, great, if not, we will show you pictures when we get back! I think especially now when it's more common for the bride and groom to be paying for most of the wedding (including ourselves), people have less of an opinion. I have mostly gotten a very good response, and now we have more people coming who we thought would say no! Oh well, the more the merrier! They are thinking of it as a vacation and an unforgetable wedding .