MsSmithtobe, sorry for yoru aggravation! It may sound bad but I make it known to people, we don't care if anyone comes except out parents. The knot will be tied regardless. We opted not to have a wedding party as my FI was in two weddings last year and said he would never put his friends through that! LoL! We are not looking for gifts. If you come, you come and enjoy your vacation while we enjoy ours! If you can't make it, we will see you upon our return...no hard feelings.