ooh, thanks Hoyt, I didn't realize that it was a 'no-no'. There's quite a lot more rules on here than any other message board I've been on...I get the reason for a points system though.
In order to get a pretty great rate we have to book our travel today but I just don't want to do it without knowing what the costs are going to be for a 2010 private reception, flowers, etc. They've got the packages on the website but nothing about extras.
Sure wish I'd hear something back from the VIM coordinators. It doesn't really leave a good taste in your mouth as far as their responsiveness.