Welcome!!! We had the same semi-dilemma... until I overruled everyone and said, "TOO BAD" I want a beautiful wedding at a newer resort with a big huge beach and big huge waves... so the people scared of Mexico (MIL, fiancee, etc) had to put that aside. Really, the violence in Mexico is not in the resort areas like Cancun...more border towns... I admit it does seem a little sketchy, but I'm just telling people not to go off the resort and stick together... just like you would in any major city. All the same, I hope you find the place you both love!