(Maybe this topic has been covered and I can't find it, so if so please post the thread link.)
Is it rude to ask people to let me know ahead of time if they are positive they will NOT be going? I was thinking about posting something like this question on my website, but I'm hesitant to do so. I really want to get an idea of the head count early so I know what I'm in for cost wise for the reception. I'm honestly hoping for a small head count so we can do a more intimate dinner reception that will cost less.
Also at what time frame did you send out your invites? I sent the STD's at 6 months, plan on sending the invites at 4 months, and plan on asking guest to RSVP 2 months prior. Is that enough time to plan? How did you do it?