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  1. Wedding Hair: There were 2 people doing our hair who spoke very little English so it was almost impossible to communicate with them. Our photographer had to translate to describe what the girls wanted. Everything came out beautifully done though and my 9 year old niece was super excited to get her hair done with all the older girls Make-up: Same problem, barely any English and again, the photographer had to translate. They did a fabulous job but I didn’t even know their names since we could not communicate with us and didn’t even know our names either. Flowers: The Wedding Planner and I went back and forth with various quotes for flowers with pictures including the flowers for the chuppah. When the flowers were delivered, I was shocked that my bouquet had wilted white roses with literally brown edges all around!!!! For $120, my bouquet was pretty small and for $85, my bridesmaids bouquets were TINY!!! They also forgot the flowers for the Moms so we had to ask for a replacement for the wilted flowers which were brought later. I could not believe my eyes!!! This is a 5-star resort and they are giving browned old flowers for the wedding and are charging good money for it! Of course there was going to be an even bigger problem later on which I did not expect at all. Bridal Bouquet: Bridesmaids Bouquet: Photographer: The Hyatt doesn’t have a photographer on staff so we could hire whoever we wanted. They provided some recommendations but we decided to hire Diane Keijzer. I spoke to her on the phone a couple of times prior to the wedding and she was very friendly and flexible. One of my non-negotiable requests was that I wanted a CD with all the digital images on them with no copyright. Lots of photographers refused to do that and we would have to order prints from them as well as our family and friends. Diane had no problem and even offered to come to our Welcome Dinner to take some pictures and then take us around the island after the wedding to take some more pictures at no additional price. She also gave me lots of advice on Aruba as I had questions about what to bring/buy. Since our Wedding Planner was nowhere to be found most of the day, Diane had to pick up the ball and run the show so we were so grateful for her positive attitude, upbeat nature and willingness to help. We would have been in serious trouble without her. For $1,700 we got a boatload of pictures from the Welcome Dinner, Wedding, and Island Tour. She also paid the taxi driver to take us around the island which was scheduled for 2 hours and turned into 4. It was a tour of the island and a photo session all in one! Videographer: Once again, the Hyatt didn’t have one so we had to make our own arrangements which was totally fine with us. We hired George Jacobs to record our wedding. We spoke on the phone once in a Aruba but there wasn’t really a need to meet face-to-face. He showed up on time and did not intrude into the ceremony or reception. He also had an assistant with him so the final video had more than one angle which was nice. He was professional and nice and the final video is very good (ends kind of abruptly but what can ya do?). We got 4 DVDs, about 1 hour of total film, for $1,000. DJ: Once we notified the Hyatt that we wanted a DJ, they put us in touch with Mark Benson. I read some good reviews about him online and he was responsive to my emails so I felt comfortable. We filled out a DJ Questionnaire for the Hyatt which listed all of our bridal party names as well as the music and special songs. The special songs and announcements were done fine but about ½ hour into the reception, Mark left and we had a young guy DJ our party for the rest of the night. He was ok, honestly, nothing very special. We gave a list of about 50 songs that was on the questionnaire and he played maybe 15 of them, while adding many that we did not request. It was a bit strange because why ask us for the list of the music as well as the music itself on CD and then not play it? I understand that they can’t play it all, but to ask us for a list and then ignore it was weird. We paid $1,400 for 4 hours for the DJ. At several points during the evening, my husband had to go up to the DJ and request a change of music in tempo depending on whether we were eating or dancing. It would have been nice to have our Wedding Planner there to communicate rather than us. The Wedding Ceremony: The whole reason for us doing a DW was to have a beach wedding and enjoy paradise. We hired the local rabbi, Rabbi Mario Gurevich, to perform the ceremony who did a great job. I am originally from Ukraine and my now husband is from Argentina (his family lives in Argentina, hence Caribbean being the choice – my perfect excuse for a paradise wedding). The rabbi is originally Argentinean with Russian/Ukrainian heritage so it was very cool to have him officiate. He also speaks fluent Spanish so it was perfect for our ceremony because he switched from one language to another throughout the ceremony. Five minutes before the ceremony, the rabbi came up to us in the lobby of the hotel where we were meeting him and told us that there was a huge problem. Turns out that there was no Chuppah!!!!!! The florist brought a regular arch instead of a Chuppah and nobody from the Hyatt told us about that, it had to come from the rabbi 5 minutes before show-time. We were both in absolutely shock since the Chuppah is a central piece of a Jewish ceremony. The rabbi cannot perform the ceremony without it. Once again, nobody from the Hyatt was anywhere to be found! So the rabbi went down to the beach and asked to have a cabana moved over to where the chuppah is supposed to be and put the arch w/flowers right at the entrance. It was quite ugly and we were both extremely upset since it was discussed so many times and was in all of the paperwork!!! But the show must go on. It was very hot with NO wind at our wedding which is so unusual for Aruba. I was very glad that I brought fans for everyone, not just the ladies, as a favor because they were used by EVERYONE. The ceremony went beautifully, even with everyone dripping sweaty. Judge the pictures for yourselves...... Requested Chuppah: Received Chuppah: Ceremony Music: This was another area where the Hyatt dropped the ball. I requested a keyboard player for the ceremony. 2 months before the wedding date, I asked to be put in contact with him/her to discuss music and see what they knew how to play, etc. Every week after that, I asked again and again, never getting any info other than “we are still trying to reach them”. 2 weeks before the wedding, still no word. At this point I am completely freaked out that we will have NO music at the ceremony!!! So I frantically contact the rabbi to ask him about any musicians that he might know and he puts us in touch with a wonderful woman named Catherine Provence-Hanrath, who has played at many weddings with the rabbi and luckily for us, she was available for our wedding. Shortly after, I got an email from the Hyatt keyboard player (mind you this is 10 days before the actual wedding) asking us what he could do for us. I emailed him back saying thanks but no thanks. The ceremony music was beautiful and I did not even get the chance to thank Catherine personally since we were whisked away to do pictures right away. But she was wonderful. Reception: Once we left the Ceremony, the reception (Deck) was literally 100 ft or so away but they were not ready for us. So our party stood around taking pictures for about 20 minutes before we got the green light to go in. Once again, the Wedding Planner was nowhere to be found and the photographer had to direct the crowd. We had a 5-course dinner for our reception and the food was truly amazing (from what I hear, I ate literally 2 bites the whole night). We had a cheese bar for cocktail hour, then soup, salad, intermezzo – pineapple sorbet (yummm), choice of filet mignon or seabass, and mango mousse. Service of the food/drinks was great. Remember when we specifically asked for semi-sweet instead of Brut Champagne? Of course we ended up getting Brut champagne which I did not want to even toast with so I pretended to drink it while really just dipping my lips into it. I did NOT want to have an upset stomach at my wedding. We asked for a semi-sweet and were brought 1 bottle so our guests had the wrong champagne the whole night. Nobody complained so maybe it is just my stomach that can’t handle brut. At one point during the reception, the Wedding Planner came up to me to apologize for the chuppah mistake and told me that they would not charge me for it. I literally almost exploded. There was no chuppah! And here she is telling me that we won’t be charged for it as if I’m getting some sort of a deal. I was appalled and literally asked my fiancé to talk to her because I was ready to cry or yell at her. I was upset enough with all the things going wrong already that I really just didn’t even want to think about. Another strange thing was that we ordered a meal for the photographer and videographer since they were with us for many hours. Their tables were set up inside and not outside with the rest of the guests which felt weird, like they were not worthy to have a table next to the rest of the guests. Maybe it’s cultural or customary but we felt bad that they were “banished” somewhere to eat their meals. The tables and centerpieces were done beautifully. We did the Argentine Tango as a surprise first dance (after 2 minutes of regular slow dance). Since 1/2 of the guests were Argentinian and everyone loves tango, it was quite a hit. Of course I forgot 1/2 of my steps but it still came out looking good! The Cake: Our cake was gorgeous and actually tasted really good. It was quite large and my fiancé had enough smarts at the end of the night to ask them to bring the left-over cake to our room. It turned out to be 2 full layers so we ate cake for the rest of our honeymoon and had people over in the evening for some cake (it actually got more moist and tasted better in the next days!!!). Honeymoon: We stayed at the Hyatt for our honeymoon and still had family/friends there and departing over the next few days. It was wonderful to see them all especially since most of our families don’t live in our city and we don’t get to see them very often at all. Negotiations with the Hyatt: After all the mistakes that the Hyatt and its vendors made, we received apologetic phone calls from the Wedding Planner, the Florist, Management, got champagne and strawberries as well as a huge arrangement from the Florist pointing the finger at the Hyatt while the Hyatt pointed their finger to the Florist. We set up a meeting for later in the week to deal with it because honestly, we didn’t want our honeymoon ruined by all this. We still had to meet with the Wedding Planner who kept apologizing for everything that went wrong and was almost in tears. She is a nice lady but she totally dropped the ball on our wedding day. We met with the manager two or three times and he offered discounts on things but honestly, it was like they were trying to give us the bare minimum for their screw ups. My husband was outraged and told them what he thought of the whole thing and how it made us feel. They swore up and down that this was the first and the last time that this has ever happened but to us, this is our wedding day, we won’t have another…. They admitted everything that went wrong but in the end, we were told that it was bad luck which was just outrageous. Bad luck is if it rained on our wedding day, or the power went out on the island. Not when paperwork gets screwed up or the Wedding Planner is nowhere to be found. It left a really bad taste in our mouths because we had to deal with this during our honeymoon. If I were them, I would give us a free stay there to make up for it, but they did not. The manager just told us to call him if we ever needed anything from him. Basically putting us in a position to ASK him for something! My husband told me that he will call him any time and every time while I didn’t want to have anything to do with it at all. I’m a little more stubborn than my husband but luckily he has the guts to deal with confrontations such as this when I’m a little more of a softie. So this was clearly not a perfect wedding but we still had a great time and honestly, it is all due to my now husband who did not let me get overly upset and kept the crowd excited and entertained the whole night. I am usually not a cry-baby and don’t fall apart easily but there were times during the night when I had to fight tears of disappointment (I did not mind tears of joy, those are great hehe). All in all, Aruba is amazing and I already miss the island very much. The people are very friendly and we definitely were not ready to go back. My husband got certified in scuba but I spent most of the time with friends/family being the hostess I will post some pictures of the resort when I get them downloaded from our cameras. Aruba brides - no worries, you are making a wonderful choice in location. This review in no way reflects poorly on the island itself and how wonderfully beautiful it is!!!
  2. The Dress: I didn't want a big poofy dress so I got this dress from a local boutique off the rack. I love love love it and still love it The Veil I bought a veil along with a headpiece a while ago but could not find it at the last moment. So I ran to David's Bridal on a late Sunday afternoon and luckily they had a brand new packaged double-veil which was actually better than my original one. The original one is still MIA...... Maid of Honor/Bridesmaids Dresses: I chose the color from David's Bridal (Apple) and each of my girls chose their own dress due to height/shape/preference. They all looked gorgeous and loved their dresses! Groomsmen Outfits: We had 2 Groomsmen no-shows due to business travel and illness but the boys still looked great!
  3. Favors: I used Palmera Rum (native to Aruba) to order miniature 2 oz. bottles of rum as our wedding favors. They had many various flavors but we picked coconut, YUM. I worked with Ethan at Palmera who was extremely helpful and very responsive. He made us custom labels at no additional charge with our names and wedding date on them. The bottles were delivered to the Hyatt and I left the $$ at the front desk so I didn’t have to worry about picking anything up. They also threw in a few extra bottles as well as one huge bottle with our label for us as well. Very much appreciated and I would recommend them any day to anyone. It made for great favors. Wedding Planner(s): When we booked the wedding back in the fall, we worked with Tita who had rave reviews about her wedding planning. I worked with her until April when all of a sudden I got an email that she was leaving the Hyatt. I freaked out since my wedding was just several weeks away but then began working with Margie who was very nice and helpful as well. I made sure to resubmit everything and confirm every single detail with Margie since I understood that mine was not the only wedding that was being transitioned to another wedding planner so I was nervous. About 2 weeks prior to the wedding, we had yet another change in the Wedding Planner so now it was Florence. She was very nice but once again, it made me very nervous and I had to resubmit everything to make sure that none of the details got lost in the transitions. We met with the Wedding Planner on Wednesday to go over the wedding plans. Turned out they did not have any Hair/Makeup appointments for me which were made right on the spot. I also found out that when I asked about a “Dress Steamer” which I assumed was a person who would steam my dress but no, it was literally a steamer. I was terrified to ruin the dress but they said for liability reasons, they could not do it nor did they have anyone at the Hyatt who did it. My bridesmaids had to help me steam the dress and we couldn’t get the steamer to work (it was overfilled with water so we had to lift the extremely heavy steamer so spill some water out). I could not have done this without my girls and I was kind of freaking out since there was no time left by the time they brought the steamer to my room. We also made it a point to ask the Wedding planner to not give us Brut champagne (standard) since it made my stomach upset which she agreed to and called the liquor vendor while we were in her office to arrange a semi-sweet champagne instead. We went over a few other details and signed all the paperwork. I asked her if she would be there all through our wedding day and she assured me that she would. She was not there most of the night and our photographer had to not only organize our group but also run and ask questions of management or make requests. My husband had to do that as well. Meetings with Vendors: I am a project manager so I had everything planned out and in spreadsheets (my fiancé has no attention to detail and I’m the opposite so he teased me about it the whole time but those spreadsheets made my life so much easier ) We met with the photographer, videographer, DJ, and rabbi to discuss what we were looking for and finalize any details. I will review them separately later. Rehearsal (Saturday afternoon): I asked our Bridal Party to meet us at 3pm as agreed to with the Wedding Planner. At 3:10pm, she was nowhere to be found so I had to run around and find her while everyone stood around waiting. She made very little attempt to help us figure things out (I knew that they had 3 other weddings that weekend but still, it was very disappointing). Welcome Dinner (Saturday): Since we arrived on Tuesday, we had guests arriving mostly on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. I arranged our Welcome Dinner at the Palms Restaurant on their deck. I emailed back and forth with one of the managers and they allowed us to use their regular menu and not their group menu which was very nice. I was very excited since the deck was beautiful and the menu items looked great. On Saturday afternoon, I realized that the giant palapa that is right in front of the Palms deck was being decorated for a wedding! So from our tables, we would literally have a front row seat to another wedding. Nobody mentioned anything to me but when I went and asked to have our party moved inside, they agreed. I was annoyed that nobody mentioned it or even thought about how it would feel for us and our guests but it was obvious that nobody considered it at all. When we all arrived for dinner, the tables were set up for our group and everyone placed their orders. It was very smokey in the restaurant from their grill and it constantly smelled like something was burning but at that point we couldn’t really do much. The food started arriving but some tables got their food really fast while others were still waiting for their first course when others were ordering dessert. It made for a very unorganized event and it was difficult to even have people give speeches since some were eating and others were not.. Just very poor organization from my perspective. The food was surprisingly bad as well. It was supposed to be a great restaurant so I was surprised at how most of the dishes tasted. When I walked around to sit with various guests, I saw that some barely touched their meals. It was pretty embarrassing and I encouraged everyone to order something else instead but people didn’t want to (we were covering the dinner so I wanted them to get a good meal). We still enjoyed the time with our friends and family and the families/friends got to meet those that they have not met before so it was ok. Spa: Since the power went out while I was getting a massage and a wrap, I made an appointment for the next day. The first time I had a lady masseuse who literally just rubbed oil on my body rather than any sort of a massage. My friend told me that she had a guy masseuse so the next time, I asked for a guy and had Dean who was amazing. I’ve had a million massages in my life and his was honestly one of the best ever. The wrap was ok, too short if you ask me (it said 60 min but in reality it was about 20, then shower, then lotion). The spa is clean and quiet with nice sized lockers and nice-smelling lotions. But Dean was amazing!!!
  4. Save the Dates: I ordered STD magnets that came out beautifully (I can't seem to find the link to where I ordered them or a confirmation website). Everyone loved having them on their fridge and looking forward to the trip. They were very good quality with a very clear picture. Invitations: I used David’s Bridal for invitations. They came out beautifully but were about $450 in total for 100 (invitation, ceremony, accommodations, thank you cards, envelopes). It was super easy to design and they sent me a PDF proof prior to printing. I was very happy with how our invitations came out. Welcome Brochures / Ceremony Brochures: I didn’t want to spend more $$ and didn’t have much time left so I decided to do it myself. It came out ok but not amazing and I wish I would have ordered them professionally. We needed everything in both English and Spanish so it created a bit more work. Once I had them all printed, cut and hole-punched, I tied them up with white ribbon so it was actually quite a bit of work considering there were 50 of each and it was 2 pages and 6 pages of sorting. Gift Bags: I brought most of the stuff from home for the gift bags. I did not take nice pictures of all of the items but here is a summary: Papermart.com - the red gift bags Drugstore.com Natural Ice Medicated Lip Protectant/SPF15 Mentos Gum Pure Fresh Mint Weddingfavorsunlimited.com Personalized fans in very pretty boxes (the tags had to be resent three times due to mistakes in printing, first my name misspelled then the wrong date, finally got it right). Aruba Aloe I didn't want to get sunblock so I got a few boxes of 4 oz after-sun aloe lotion. I placed the order over email and then went and picked it up at the actual factory in Aruba. They were $5.95 each and came in boxes of 12. They made for a GREAT item since sunblock is a little more personal w/ varying spf and ingredients. Oriental Trading Company: Candy (tux & gown) - 120 for $5.99, a total steal and very very cute! heart buckets - $12.99/dozen Playing cards - $5.99/dozen, great for the beach. Personalized Wedding Bottle Stickers - $2.99/50 stickers. We bought water at a local supermarket and put the labels on them. Came out nice. Personalized Two Hearts Wedding Bubble Bottles - $9.99/24 bottles. Came with stickers w/ our names/wedding date. Very cute and everyone loved them. The kids were having a blast with them at the reception. Children’s Mini Wedding Activity Sets - $4.99/dozen. It is a little booklet with coloring and games and 4 crayons in a box. Very cute. coasters with hearts - set of 100 for $7.99 stickers (with hearts) - 480 for $0.99 Minimus.biz Loved this company for having individual packets of almost everything that I needed! Pepto Bismol (Chewable Tablets) - box of 48 for $28.80 Rolaids Cherry Antacid - box of 48 for $45.60 Bayer Aspirin - box of 48 for 15.36 Wet Ones Singles Antibacterial Cleansing Wipes- box of 144 for $20.16. DollarDays.com I got guestbook/pen set, flowergirl baskets, and heart-shaped balloons for the kids gift bags. David's Bridal The ring bearer pillow came from DB. HaloHeaven.com I ordered the white/red wands with little bells on them. I wasn't sure if anyone would use them but EVERYONE loved them. The kids picked them up first and before the end of the night, everyone had them up in the air. So fun!!
  5. Hi ladies, We got back from our wedding/honeymoon about 10 days ago so I am writing a review for it! Let me start of by saying that I spent probably 3 months carefully choosing the venue for our wedding. We finally chose the Hyatt Regency Aruba since it was one of the most beautiful and reputable resorts in all of the Caribbean. Turned out that in our case, we didn’t get their usual great service. There were some major problems where the Hyatt dropped the ball really badly. It is supposed to be the best resort on the island but our wedding honestly got maybe 1.5 stars if that. I truly hope that this does not happen to anyone else, but I did everything in my power to make sure things ran smoothly and with DWs, we rely on the wedding planners and their vendors to deliver what is promised and in this case, they did not. Not even close. Location: Hyatt Regency Aruba Resort & Casino Date: May 30, 2010 Guests: 38 adults, 4 kids, 2 newlyweds Neither I nor my husband has been to Aruba prior to the wedding so planning was tricky considering that we didn’t have a visit. But I did not have enough vacation time to take for a trip down and I honestly don’t think that it would have changed the outcome. Aruba: I personally loved Aruba and everything it had to offer. We stayed on Palm Beach which is stunningly beautiful. May is their low-season but there was a huge music festival the weekend of our wedding headlining Mary J. Blige and Toni Braxton so the island and the resort were pretty busy. Aruba is very Americanized so don’t be shocked by seeing McD’s and Pizza Huts. The restaurants are generally very good although prices are not cheap. We were able to find affordable breakfasts/lunches and for dinner we splurged a bit. Smokey Joe’s BBQ Ribs is amazing and we also really enjoyed Aqua Grill in Palm Beach for a nicer dinner. Another huge positive for Aruba is their super-clean water. It is 2nd in the world’s cleanest water so you can drink straight from the tap and not worry about getting sick unlike w/ DR or Mexico. It was very hot so it was very nice to be able to just refill the water bottle from the tap and put it in the fridge. Flight: We had a flight from DC to Aruba with a 2 hour layover at Charlotte, NC. We could have had a shorter layover but I was a little worried that the flight out of DC would be delayed so for peace of mind, we had 2 hours to kill. We flew US Airways which charges for luggage. We ended up paying $60 for 4 checked-in luggage bags which if you ask me, is a rip off. Who travels internationally without luggage?!?!?!?! We lucked out and had an empty seat next to us on the flight to Aruba so I took a little nap and put my feet up (my back was killing me since I pulled one of the suitcases while packing). Customs was super easy, literally took 10 minutes to get our luggage and be out getting into a taxi. Check In: Upon arrival to the Hyatt, we were very impressed with how gorgeous the resort is. Elegant, clean, with wonderful service at the front desk and everywhere else. Our wedding was on Sunday but we arrived on Tuesday to allow us to meet with the wedding planner, photographer, videographer, rabbi, DJ, etc. Room: We booked a standard room and the Hyatt gives a 5-night upgrade to a suite if you have a wedding at their resort. We were staying 12 nights so it would have been annoying to move rooms but luckily, since it was low-season, we were upgraded to an ocean front suite which was amazing. It wasn’t truly a suite since it was still 1 room, but it was a bit larger than the regular rooms so that was very nice considering I had a lot of bags and a lot of stuff to do. The beds were very comfortable and the balcony view was stunning (regular rooms do not have a full balcony, just a walk-out with no room for chairs so it was awesome to have a full balcony overlooking the beach and the Caribbean sea). The sea is this amazing turquoise color which made me smile every day. And the palm trees  We had champagne and strawberries delivered to our room in the evening but the champagne was Brut which made my stomach extremely upset and I was in crazy pain for a couple of hours from it. I mention it because it comes into play later yet again! Fridges were provided for free which came in very handy for us. Resort: The resort is medium size so it wasn’t huge. It was awesome to bump into family/friends everywhere we went and if we needed to find something (no cell phones!), it was easy to just call their room or find them on the beach/by the pool. The pools are the Hyatt are gorgeous, with plenty of chairs/umbrellas around. I imagine that if the hotel is full, it might get crowded but for us, it was perfect. One of the pools had a swim-up bar where the food was actually pretty good. The resort had the most amazing landscaping with gorgeous flowers everywhere and these pretty little walkways made of stone. There were iguanas and lizards running around which was super awesome, parrots in cages, as well as coi fish and black swans in the “lake”. The resort is super clean and staff is really amazing at keeping things friendly and nice for the guests. Bars: There are two bars on the grounds which were nice as well as a juice bar for those yummy smoothies that are perfect on a hot day. The drinks are pricey ($10) and even smoothies are pricey ($8.50) but we are not big drinkers so it was fine. Casino: I'm not big on casinos but this one was very cold and smokey. My FI loves casinos so he went a couple of times with the guys. It's pretty large and there seemed to be activity there in the evenings. But brrrr, it was cold in there!!!! Restaurants: We did not want an all-inclusive resort although most in Aruba are not. We wanted to be able to get our own food whenever/wherever we wanted. The food at the Hyatt was somewhat disappointing, granted that this is one of the areas that they are famous for. Everyone raved about their restaurants. Ruinas del Mar is GORGEOUS but the food was way oversalted and not very good. I will review the other restaurant, the Palms, later since we had our Welcome Dinner there. Also, there is a café at the resort which serves coffee and iced coffee and snacks. It is pretty overpriced ($4.00 pastries, $6.00 water) but it was very popular with our guests for their coffee needs (even though there is a coffee machine in the room, they loved the iced coffee from there and their pastries were amazing). The Beach: The beaches in front of the resorts are not huge but since it wasn’t high season, it was fine. The water is amazing and I absolutely loved Palm Beach. There is a long trail that goes all along the beach so you can easily walk over to other resorts and visit their restaurants/shops. We found a nice breakfast place at the Radisson (Gilligan’s) where we went for breakfast a few times. Many times when we came to the beach there were a lot of palapas already occupied with towels on them but nobody there for hours so it was evident that people just reserved their spot and then left. We never did that since I am not a morning person and never had a problem getting a place, of course not in first row but it was fine. The sand is gorgeous and Palm Beach waters are very calm so it was nice to swim and not get beat up by the waves and our nieces/nephews could play in the water and not worry about being knocked over or scared of the big waves. Palm Beach faces the sunset so every evening was like a painting outside. Simply gorgeous. My favorite thing to do was to swim for hours and then keep swimming while the sun was setting and even after. WARNING: Aruba is 18 degrees south of the equator so the sun is STRONG. It is very easy to get sunburnt so be very careful with lots of sunblock and hats and light flowy shirts with sleeves if you are out during the afternoon. Gorgeous sunsets: Power Outlets: It was awesome that Aruba electrical system is the same as American so no need for converters or any other devices. Everyone's electronic devices worked, no problems!!!! Power Outage: There was a power outage twice while we were in Aruba. We were told that it is very rare that it happens but it did. Aruba is much more advanced than many other islands so it was some problem at the power plant. There was no power at the resort for 4 hours but it was fine. They gave everyone glow sticks to walk around with  It happened on the evening when we were meeting up with everyone for our Friday night drinks get-together to kick-off all the wedding activities. I was also in the middle of a massage when the power went out so they closed the spa and rescheduled my appointment without a charge.
  6. Quote: Originally Posted by hat0112 Lol... I wish we could do that! I know I will be upset to never wear it again! Maybe we should all meet up and wear our dresses! I am very detail oriented and a DW isn’t something I can do that with. But my WC got back to me today and I can see why it took him a while. He sent a big email with all sorts of decisions and thing we need to go over and decide on. The WC said we will actually try and start the ceremony at 5:15 and somehow that seems so much better, even though it is only 15 more minutes. Yeah, the veil isn’t staying on after the ceremony so I don’t have to worry about it for long. Ha, that’s true. If one veil bothers me I still have another. Oh I’m sure the pictures are gorgeous! I heard the sunsets there are amazing! I'm glad that you heard back from the WC! I had trouble being all hands-on but it worked out for the most part I'm down for the wedding gown parade hahahaha. That would be something special Just a little teaser for you until I have the review done.
  7. Quote: Originally Posted by hat0112 Well he did send an email that he would get back to me. We have been making a few decisions already and the response time was fine up until recently. I am not too concerned right now since I have 4 months to go, but I like to have everything planned and organized and I can't if he doesn't respond. The WC said he would move it up if it is what I want, but he insists on 5:30. I think I might still end up moving it up. I would feel more comfortable since we aren't doing pictures before the ceremony. I thought about it, but I really don’t want my FI to see me until I walk down the isle. I am concerned about getting that message to my guests, but I guess I can tell everyone at the rehearsal dinner. Beading on the veil is a good idea. I also have a second veil that is about the length of yours that will go on top of the cathedral length veil. Each veil is only one piece and when you put it together it looks like one. I heard about brides using Hollywood Wedding Tape and taping the veil to the dress but I am worried the tape will ruin my dress. PS- I love your dress! Thanks I love my dress, too. I wonder if I can wear it around the city and not get wierd looks haha. It's tough to be patient with destination weddings. I am a hands-on person in general so for me it was a little rough to do everything remotely but we managed. Just remember that summer is the slowest season in Aruba so maybe he is just taking some time off. If you absolutely have to get in touch with him, I would call him directly or even the hotel and get someone on the phone. Go with what you want regarding time. He can say that 5:30 is best but he doesn't know your needs/reasons. So explain and then ask for the change. 5:30 is what they are used to so any change can create risk for them so they try to stick to the original time. But if you ask, they will be flexible I'm sure. I don't know about tape.. I never used it. But I would not worry about it. Worst case scenario, if the veil really bothers you, take a few pictures and then take it off anyway. Mine was off right after all the pictures were done! And since you have 2 veils, at least 1 will definitely work. Get ready for the gorgeous Aruba beaches and sunset. I have been going through the photographer's pictures and the sunsets are stunning.
  8. Quote: Originally Posted by hat0112 Yes, we are at the Westin. I am just finding it so hard to plan when I can’t see things and talk to people. I emailed my WC over a month ago and I still haven't heard from him. He has emailed to say he will respond soon, but I am still waiting. I think I might have to call him. It might be easier to get an answer from him. I have asked him the same few questions a few times already and he hasn’t answered them. I have all the things I can do done (dress, OOT bags, favors, etc) except for one or 2 things that I am waiting on a final count for. My biggest issue I am kind of freaking out about it the time of the ceremony. My WC insists that it should be at 5:30pm and that is the best time for that time of year. But with a 30 minutes ceremony I only have 18 minutes till sunset and whatever time after till it gets dark. I just don’t think that will be enough time for pictures. What time did you have your ceremony? I am also worried about the wind and my cathedral length veil. I saw that you didn’t get wind on your wedding day, but was it really windy the other days? I just don’t want to be fighting with my veil during the ceremony. He is not returning your calls/emails for a month? Hmm. I know that with destination weddings in general, the wedding coordinators do not want to get into all the details until 2-3 months before the wedding. So it is possible that they are just waiting until closer to the date. It would be nice if they told you that instead of just silence but I have a feeling that this is what is going on. I worked with Inge when we were considering the Westin and she was pretty responsive. It is scary for us, brides, but they tend to get most of the things done weeks from the wedding so just make sure that you are prepared when they do start asking you questions regarding flowers, decor, music, etc.. Regarding time, our ceremony was at 5:30 and we had plenty of sunlight BUT this was May, not November. If you are that concerned and are sure that you want it earlier, I do not see why they would not accommodate it! Will you be doing pictures before the ceremony? If not, then you have to explain it to the WC because they are assuming that you are! I would try to get in touch with the general manager or director of Food/Beverage if all else fails. Did you already sign the contract for the date with a certain time? Our ceremony was supposed to be at 6pm but our rabbi asked to move it to 5:30 since there was another jewish couple getting married on the island the same night and he wanted to do both weddings if possible. The Hyatt had no problem changing our time even though we already had everything signed. I have a feeling that with you, they are just busy with weddings that are coming up soon and do not want to get into details of Nov weddings yet. Yes, we had NO wind at all at our wedding which was so strange. It was very hot which was unusual as well, record heat LOL. It felt more like Mexico than Aruba for sure but it was fine. Later in the week it did get windy, with some serious gusts of air. I think a longer veil will actually work better than a shorter one with wind, the short one would be flying all over the place but the long will stay put under its own weight. If you don't have beading on the veil, maybe put some beads at the bottom to add some weight. I'm attaching a pic of mine just for reference but we didn't have any wind..
  9. I didn't have teenagers but I had a 1.5, 4, 4.5, and 9 year old at our party. I got them little pails for the beach, lots of coloring books, stickers, balloons, crayons and things like that. I think if they are 12+, you should get them the same thing as adults would get. They *think* that they are adults at that point and getting them games would probably just annoy them. I did include playing cards for in all of the bags so I'm sure the teens would use those.
  10. Quote: Originally Posted by CristiandJamie For the past brides, did your guest expect you to do everything for them book tours, entertain them inbetween events I dont know why but all of sudden I'm worring about that! I really want people to enjoy their vacation and feel free to do what they want (with or without us). Not at all, nobody expected us to have tours booked for them. Everyone wanted to know what times we had planned activities (I included the schedule in their welcome bag) and everyone planned their own activities around those few scheduled events. Don't worry about that at all. That's the last thing you should be stressing about when planning a wedding Just include a brochure or smth for the guests so they can pick their own activities at whatever date/time is convenient for them.
  11. Quote: Originally Posted by KimmyD HELP! I am really not very good at planning events and I really wanted to elope, but my FI really wants to do a destination wedding. I was wondering if it would be rude to just give guests the OOT bags, have an informal welcome dinner and a simple ceremony? I see people doing programs and itinerary's etc... We have both been married before and feel that we just want a simple beach ceremony. Thanks! No way!! That's exactly what we did at our wedding and everyone chose their own activities based on their interests. Some just lounged at the beach, others did water sports, some did sightseeing, etc etc. People's interests vary so much that it's virtually impossible to get a group consensus. We had a Fri night bar meet-up for those who wanted to meet up. We had a Welcome Dinner for everyone on Sat. We had the wedding on a Sunday. I started thinking of planning a group activity but I'm glad that my FI talked me out of it because it would have been extremely painful w/ 45 people there, including kids and older folks. We did get together with people here and there for various activities when time permitted but they chose what they wanted to do, not us! What you planned is perfectly fine so don't stress about it
  12. Wow, great info. I had a general idea of the process but it's nice to be able to hear exactly what worked for others. I just got a new passport (mine expired 2 months before the wedding. DOH!!!!!!). But I am definitely changing my name, just a matter of going to all of the offices and filling out all the paperwork. A related question is regarding combining finances. Is it easier to do once all the name change is completed? I don't want to get things confused so I wonder if it makes sense to do the name change first and then when all the dust settles, go take care of bank accounts?!? Any thoughts?
  13. Thanks! I will read through those posts and I'm sure all the info that I need is right there. Thank you!
  14. For those ladies that are already married, did you use any websites to guide you through the process? My friend sent me a website but it's $29.99 and I'm sure there is the same information on the web for free. Just wondering what everyone here did to get information on what needs to get done and in what order. Thanks in advance! Newly Mrs.
  15. Congratulations on what sounds like a beautiful wedding/trip!!! Can't wait to see all the pictures
  16. Quote: Originally Posted by hat0112 Thanks! That would be wonderful! I will take all the information about Aruba I can get since my FI or me (or anyone I know) have never been there. I'll be more than happy to answer any questions even though we are doing the wedding at different resorts and different times of the year. You are at the Westin, correct? How are things coming along so far with planning
  17. I gave this a lot of thought and then given everyone's arrival dates and preferences and age, we decided to not do group activities such as trips/cruises. Our wedding was on a Sunday so we just did the following and it was more than enough: - Fri night we all met up at one of the bars at the resort and spent some time just hanging out. Some people came, others didn't. It wasn't mandatory and since it was just at one of the bars, it didn't cost us a thing other than the tab. - Sat night we had a rehearsal with our bridal party and in the evening had a Welcome Dinner for everyone attending the wedding. It was very much appreciated by the group and it was nice for everyone to meet before the actual wedding. The rest of the time everyone did whatever they wanted. When you get to a larger group, it's really hard to find something that everyone will enjoy and can fit into their schedule. But if you can do that, that's awesome!
  18. Quote: Originally Posted by hat0112 Thank you MDLady! I believe you are the first one to do a review for Aruba! I will do a full review in the next couple of weeks. Just gotta get it all together I miss Aruba already!!!!
  19. I actually loved having the cake and so did everyone else. We ordered dessert as well for those who did not want cake so some people were surprised that we had both. But I'm of the mind to give guests more options than less. It was also fun to have people over in our room for the next couple of nights for some cake and coffee The cake was very good and actually got better after being in the fridge for a couple of days. There isn't a lot that I would change as things that I was not happy with were the fault of the resort. I cannot think of a single thing that I could have done to ensure that those mistakes were not made. With weddings, you are at the mercy of the vendors and there is only so much you can do to ensure great delivery.. What I would do again: 1. Picked Aruba as our destination. What a beautiful island with a wide variety of activities for all of our guests (gorgeous beaches, extremely safe, water sports, cruises, horse back riding, ATV rides, great shopping and restaurants). Everyone had the biggest smile on their face the whole time we were there. 2. Allowed my MOH/BM to pick their dresses with me just choosing the color (David's Bridal). The color looked gorgeous on them all but each chose a style most flattering to them and they each loved their dress. 3. Prepared OOT bags for the guests which included a welcome booklet w/ the schedule of events as well as some goodies. Everyone really appreciated the items and used them quite a bit. I purposely did not include sunblock due to so many varying needs but instead I included Aruba Aloe After Sun Lotion which everyone loved. 4. I am VERY happy that I included fans for the beach ceremony. Aruba is known for being breezy so I had doubts if it was necessary. Turns out that on our wedding day we had NO wind and 90F weather which is highly unusual for Aruba. 90% of the guests had their fans out. Originally I was gonna get them for the ladies only and get smth else for the men but I'm so glad that I got 1 per person. The men were using them just as much since it was pretty hot. 5. Had my hair and make-up people come to the room for the whole bridal party. I knew that I was not going to do my own hair/make-up but I made the option available to my bridal party and paid for their hair/make-up for those who wanted it. They really appreciated it and felt beautiful and pampered. 6. Organized a Welcome Dinner the evening before the wedding. My husband's family is from South America so most of the members of our families have not met yet. This was a great chance for people to meet or at least lay eyes on each other before the wedding. 7. I'm very glad that I did not buy a super expensive gown (a little over $1,000 w/ alterations). And I'm glad that I chose a bridal gown rather than a beachy dress since it made the wedding day that much more beautiful and I felt gorgeous! I also bought a 2nd inexpensive gown just in case mine got ruined during travel or smth. I got a little paranoid but it was comforting to know that it was there in case something did happen (luckily I didn't need it). 8. Prepared a special first dance with a surprise tango after a slow dance. It really made the guests excited and impressed. Even though I forgot 1/2 of the steps since I was so nervous. But it actually looked good. 9. I'm definitely happy to have had a videographer. I watched the video last night and loved it. I will enjoy having it for a long time and it was definitely worth the $! 10. Took our photographer's offer to do the island photo tour. With all the wedding craziness and so many guests coming/going, we have not gotten the chance to even do the island tour ourselves. So going with our photographer around the island allowed us not only to have great pictures, but also was a tour in itself. And we have 2 CDs worth of pictures to show for it! 11. I made it a point to hire a photographer who agreed to give us the digital images. Many did not want to do that and we would have had to shell out $$ to order extras. This way we can get whatever pictures we want printed at any time. 12. I'm VERY glad that we came to the island 4 days prior to the wedding. I was stressed out with all the meetings and last minute planning but I would have been completely freaking out if it all had to be done within 1 day! Our guests arrived over those 4 days which gave us time to spend with them before the big day. I was able to go to breakfast and lunch with my girlfriends which helped a lot to relax and be happy 13. Went to get a massage the day before the wedding. It helped SO much to get me relaxed as I was getting really stressed out. What I would not do again 1. I would not do my own Ceremony Programs and Welcome Booklets. It was such a pain to sort through all of them and tie them up. I wish I just ordered them somewhere! 2. I would not leave the steaming of the bridal gown for the wedding day. I was under the impression that when the resort told me that "the steamer will be sent to your room" that they meant a PERSON who will steam the dress. Nope. It was an actual steamer that I had to use myself. A little scary when it comes to the wedding dress!!! I wish I hired someone to get it steamed instead of me and my BMs trying to make the steamer work and me being all stressed out the morning of the wedding! What I wish I would have done 1. I gave the guestbook to the wedding planner and they ended up placing it on a table in the corner where nobody saw it! I did not realize it at the time of the wedding but afterwards was very sad that only 5 or so people signed it. Nobody else knew that it was even there! I wish I remembered to pass it around or put it in a better place. 2. Took the time to sit down and eat a good meal before the wedding. Everyone told me that I will not be eating much and my BMs ordered room service and literally fed me food while my hair was being done. I had almost nothing to eat at the reception (and was told that the food was amazing so DOH!!!) so I was so grateful for having even a little bit of food in my stomach prior to the ceremony.
  20. You would still need to be the one in contact with the resort for the wedding plans because the contract for the wedding itself would have to be signed by you and not the TA. There are many stipulations in the contract that only you can sign such as prices, cut-off dates, room types, minimum room requirements, etc. There are also stipulations in the contract regarding penalties in case the event is cancelled for some reason so no TA would sign that type of a contract. So it's all on the happy couple. However, if you have a Wedding Planner at home (not a TA), then he/she will definitely be in the position to help work with the resort. If you are not a good planner and know that you will need help, then I would definitely hire a planner to help. That way you have someone who knows how to organize everything and will be your advocate when working with the resort.
  21. Quote: Originally Posted by VA_Bride MDLady! Congratulations on the wedding! Maybe you could start your own thread and tell us more about your wedding and how things went. Maybe some reviews/critiques for those of us still in the planning stage. Thanks! We had a blast in Aruba and at our wedding but there were definitely problems where the resort dropped the ball. I will definitely do that, just need a little time to put it all together We just got back on Sunday and bought a house so needless to say, things are a little hectic.
  22. Quote: Originally Posted by hat0112 My FI and I just registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond. We invited only 90 people to the wedding and only about 20 are coming. A lot of our family and friends want to send us something and I know my family wants me to have a shower. I figure I rather register and get things I want then not register and get things I don’t like or need. Exactly!!! Most people WANT to get you a gift, even when you tell them that they don't have to. I argued with many of my guests about it and then just gave in because I did not want to seem ungrateful. I did let them know upfront that gifts were not expected from them due to travel costs. Some guests did not give a gift, others gave very generously and everything in between. I made a small registry and it was sufficient enough for those who wanted to get something. My and my FI's family gave cash since we are both non-American-born and traditionally money is given for weddings Here in the U.S. is it considered rude so a registry is a very good idea IMO.
  23. Quote: Originally Posted by skadow I think its a good idea, plus I heard that sometimes people will go off those lists around Christmas times or holidays, Housewarming ect. Times when people want to get you a couples present ,but don't know what to get you. I registered at Home Depot ( we just bought a house) Crate and Barrel ( For people who like getting nicer gifts) Target ( For Practical Gifts) If you register for items with a different prices, people can buy what they feel is approprate. So you don't have to worry about feeling odd. Who knows, co-workers or parents friends might want to get you something too. Totally agreed. We were in the same position but only registered at Macy's. Whoever wanted to buy something did buy it, but those who did not were not forced to. I also put quite a bit of a range in item prices on the list so there were things that were $15 all the way up to $250.
  24. Bachelorette party gifts are usually some fun gags, not formal gifts. In my case, I was given some lingerie, some edible body lotions, sexy games, etc. I've also given similar items to all my girls at their bachelorette parties and then a more formal gift for their wedding.
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