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I would love to put an album together or a scarpbook of our wedding on top of a traditional wedding album. But yes, it will definitely help to write in a journal since a few years from now it will be hard to remember details (thank goodness for digital cameras!!!)

I bought a 36-pack of heart-shaped baloons. They are white and red which are my colors. Not sure what I will do with them but will definitely do something I'm not big on bows so I might use balloons where they won't block the way. Wholesale Latex Pearlized Heart Balloons (SKU 432307) DollarDays

Ladies, Since most of us are having a destination wedding at a resort somewhere in paradise, how are you all choosing your wedding cakes? We were given several choices for cake, filling, and topping but we are not going to the island until 5 days before the wedding at which point the order should already be made. One of my friends suggested asking a local bakery to prepare samples that we might be interested in trying. Are any of you having trouble figuring out what kind of cake to order? If so, suggestions Thanks!

Quote: Originally Posted by skadow There is a Gap and Gap Body. Most Gap Bodies are connect to the gaps, but I know some states don't have them. They are awsome! I like them so much better then Victoria Secrets for Boy Shorts. They have great little cammys / undershirts too. Oh I've never heard of Gap Body. Hmm. I'll have to look into it or otherwise go brave some other stores! Thanks

I am thinking pretty necklaces for my MOH and bridesmaids. And personalized jewelry boxes for our nieces (flower girls). No idea what my FI is thinking for his BM and GM. I also don't know what to get for my parents..... Perhaps some really nice china or wine glasses since they don't have anything fancy like that.

Quote: Originally Posted by khanahan I read this somewhere else and thought it was a fantastic idea -- buy a long picture frame that has 4 slots for 4 different pictures. Place your paternal grandparents wedding photo in the first slot, your maternal grandparents wedding photo in the 2nd slot, your parents wedding photo in the 3rd slot and then a place holder that states that your wedding picture will go in the 4th slot. This is sentimental and multi-generational. You could probably purchase a larger frame if your parents/grandparents were divorced. That is an absolutely beautiful idea!!! I will suggest it for my FI's parents. I would do it myself but my Dad's parents passed a long time before I was born so I don't think it will work for my end. But for his, it will be perfect!!!

The sides don't have to match but I know that I actually would like them to.. It's just nicer that way but it is not the end of the world by any means if it doesn't happen. If you are anxious about it, just ask your fiance again if he is up for having the 2 guy friends in the wedding just to make you feel better. And if it's not a huge deal to you, then don't sweat it. Whatever the numbers end up being, it will be beautiful

Quote: Originally Posted by jennifer769405 I was wondering about this same thing! My fiance's aunt sent me a message asking if we were registered anywhere and I told her no, that we were not expecting gifts and appreciate the effort people have made to be there with us. And her response was: any suggestions?? I have no idea how to respond to that??!! If you suspect that you might be getting more of those questions from those who cannot attend, I would put a registry together, just a small one, to save people the trouble of guessing what you need. It's very simple to do. My Macy's registry has about 20 items on them, ranging from $15-$250. This way people don't have to wreck their brains trying to guess what we need if they intend to get us a gift.

Quote: Originally Posted by skadow I love love love Gap bodies Boy shorts. They arnt for shapping, but they look really cute and stay put. I have a Gap literally right by my house and never noticed that they had boy shorts!!! I'll stop by on my way from work tomorrow and check them out. Thanks!!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by debbmach i'm also not wearing a bra, my dress has built in cups and i don't need the additional support! i'll probably get a pair of lacy, sexy boyshorts...they show my booty the best and FI loves them on me! I have a couple of pairs of great boyshorts and they totally do shape the butt very nicely. However, sometimes they roll up at the bottoms (I have the Fredericks ones). What brand do you like the most? I've been meaning to get VS's but haven't yet.

I cannot imagine being comfortable in a corset for the whole day, especially if your wedding is on an island where it's hot. My dress is backless so I'm not wearing a bra and all I have to worry about is some nice panties. Same goes for Spanx, although I never tried them. Don't they get hot after a while

I didn't want to register at first since our guests had to pay for their own travel and rooms. But some of the guests who were not able to attend asked for a registry so I put together a small one at Macy's. I just had my bridal shower this weekend and everyone brought gifts. Half of the people will not be at the wedding so I was happy with that. It was such a fun evening so don't stress too much. Those who cannot afford a big gift or any gift will bring a card or flowers or a nice bottle of wine.

Quote: Originally Posted by Sloan I was a bit annoyed. Considering the same "friend" couldnt be bothered to send back the RSVP for my own wedding or phone or send an email saying congrats or hey I cant come. I wasnt able to make their wedding, so tacky as it may be I didnt send the RSVP back or bother to get her a "monetary gift". Tit for tat. Im a vindictive bitch and dont care. LOL!!! Good for you. Seriously. I would do the same thing and I'm not a mean person. I just think it's the rudest thing in the world to not respond to an invite (WEDDING, not bbq or happy hour). What could she possibly expect in return?!?!?!?

I've thought about this but as others said, just couldn't get myself to ask for money. We didn't really need much and since our guests were traveling and our resort was quite pricey, I told everyone that gifts were optional since their presence was already enough of a gift for us. I did have people asking for a registry, especially those who could not attend so I ended up putting a small one together (under 20 items). Then for my bridal shower guests ended up getting gifts. My family gave me cash which they know is much more needed But I didn't want to ask them. I like the poem idea but it is still asking guests for money. I would be too embarrassed to do so.

I think regardless of what "job" you give them, the kids will enjoy it as both you and your FI will. We don't have any kids of our own yet but have 6 nieces/nephews between the two of us. So we are including all of them as flower girls and ring bearers

It really depends on how close you are (not distance, that's obvious). Do you guys talk on a regular basis? Is he an important part of your life? Do you WANT to have the father-daughter dance with him or do you feel like you SHOULD? It's a tough situation but if you invite him and he's there, but not walking you down the aisle or getting a dance, that might be too uncomfortable for you, knowing that you are kind of snubbing him. Unless you despise him or can't imagine doing so, I'd have a dance, for both of you. Especially if your Mom is walking you down the aisle.

I get what you are going through. If you were to invite him, would you be hoping that he rejects the invitation or accepts it If you are hoping for a rejection and are just trying to avoid hurting his feelings, then don't invite him. If you truly want him there, regardless of all the past issues/mistakes, then invite him and hopefully your family will have enough respect for your decision. But based on the vibe that I am getting from what you wrote, it seems like your biggest concern is hurting his feelings rather than that you really want him there.. To me that's a sign that you know what is right for you

Quote: Originally Posted by saza175 Hey everyone...after the "selfish comments" now I'm hearing plenty of negativity about the drug war going on in Mexico.... my fiance is letting these people get in his head too. UGHHH!!!! I never knew going to paradise for a family member's wedding could create so much drama and negativity! wowwww.... Also, I'm hearing all the talk about how we're not going to get any gifts blah blah blah because people are spending so much just to go. I'm losing it LOL Oh yeah, I was told about the gifts as well. But honestly, I didn't care about the gifts as long as I had my family and friends there. I think some people just can't think outside of the box and what you "should" and are "supposed" to do.

That's very clever! I love it!

I wanted to get some fake flower petals since we have 4 flower girls and real petals are probably much more expensive. I ordered some from Papermart.com which looked nice. When I got them, I couldn't even get them out of the box because of static. They stuck to EVERYTHING. I tried to throw it but they got stuck to my clothes, each other, the box, everything. It was kind of comical but not usable at all. Just FYI in case any of you were to order from that store.

Quote: Originally Posted by michelle2011 here is mine! I love it...... Ambrosia - by Maggie Sottero WOW, now that is an incredible dress! Beautifully designed and just stunning!!! Very good choice!

Wow shortnsweet7675 - that's a LOT of stuff!!!!!!!!

VA_Bride - isn't it amazing that people say that we are "forcing people to spend a week on an island" like we are making them to into a military bootcamp in the middle of the Sahara dessert..... I wish I was forced to spend more time on the islands!!!!!!!

I think since your sister is your MOH, then her hubby can be sort of the BM. Or at least walk her down the aisle. But it really depends on how you want to do things.

That's a really tough one. I had to deal with that months ago when my FI was like "what are groomsmen" (he is from South America and they don't have BM or GM at weddings, just the MOH and BM). And I really wanted to have my 3 best friends be in the wedding. So I asked them anyway and they all agreed. Now the tough part was getting him to ask. He wasn't sure who was gonna be able to come and didn't want to ask unless he knew that those people were actually coming for sure. Luckily for me, his 2 cousins and a good friend decided to come so problem solved. But I was sweating there for a while.. Don't worry, it might work out in the end. The guys don't think of these things way ahead of time as women do so he will probably come around and some of his friends might change their mind about coming. If not, then just work with what you got. It will still be a beautiful ceremony!