I am so sorry to hear this! Men tend to break down if they cant provide for there families. They get moody when they dont have money. They handle stress differently than us. You guys are doing the right thing by going to talk to your therapist. I dont know how spiritual you guys are but prayer definitely works. Did you ever read Steve Harver's book "Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man"? He touches on this subject alot in his book. He says a real man will do everything in his power to provide for his woman. So your FI is probably having issues with the fact that he is unable to do so. That is definitely understandable. I pray that you guys can work through this situation!