Hi Ladies:
I am in need of as much advice as possible. I would really really appreciate it if anyone who is experiencing the same thing that I am or know of someone or has gone through it, would please give me some input.
For a very long time now I have been dreaming of a destination wedding. My first destination was Germany. After 10 years and a dose of reality, I know that will not be possible. Presently, I my dream is to have a destination wedding (I live in NJ, FH in TX), in Mexico. This has now become my dream because monetarily, I just cannot afford to have the kind of wedding my sister had, which cost $30K. But most of all, I have always wanted a small wedding with about 50-75 people, and then have a reception/party at home when we returned.
The problem with this is, one of his sisters will not be able to travel overseas for the wedding. So, I have had to revisit my wishes for a destination wedding, and have been looking on the NJ coast (Cape May), or the New England coast. The problem with this is, that I have a big family and like with my sister's wedding everyone wants to be invited. He also has a lot of family and they will all expect invites also. I know that everyone is not going to be invited but it worries me anyway.
I just don't know how I can get what I want but also include the important that need to be included. That is my problem right now. His sister cannot leave the country. I am content to change the venue but I don't want to change so much that I am not having anything that I want, i.e., a destination wedding. And the wedding that I want. A small intimate wedding with just the people that I want there. If I have it in NJ, I am going to have to invite more people than I want, and spend more money than I want or have.
Am I being selfish? I want a small wedding preferably near the ocean. I do want to have a reception for everyone when we return from our honeymoon. I want a destination wedding but his sister has to be taken into consideration.
What do you guys think?