I don't have this issue as yet. But I did have an issue with deciding where to have my wedding, and the ladies on her set me straight. It is your wedding, and your FI's. So do what is right for the both of you. What makes you guys happy. And I guess in the end, who ever makes it, those are the few or the lot who appreciate and cherish your moment the most. Good luck and continue to look forward to YOUR day.