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That's great, exactly what I was looking for!! I was hoping that since it's a DW and docs need to be translated, that our guests will just assume we are going it before the ceremony. So that's good to know that someone else managed to pull it off! So you only had to go a few days before you left? Was that for the license or the certificate? I am still confused over that, leaving it to the FI to look into!

Good idea!! I am going to look tomorrow!! Just an update -- I was at Walmart today getting a card, and I happened to see that they had bathing suits for 5 bucks a piece!!!!! Not great quality - but I remembered we were talking about iron on things, and you mentioned you would if you found one for cheap! So anyways, I bought a white bathing suit - two pieces to put an iron on thing on - and it was 10 bucks!!!!! TOTAL!! lol Just wanted to spread the word. !

Glad it hasn't bounced back!! I sent her an email with our wedding contract (date/time etc.) and asked about making our Renewal of the Vows ceremony seem like a real marriage ceremony. But she did not reply to the second part! lol...maybe I'm over thinking it, but I'm worried that my guests will wonder why we didn't do paperwork or something.

As far as passport -- I won't be "legally" changing my name until we get back from Punta Cana -- so my travel agent told us today it won't be a problem and I won't need to get a passport for it (until after my name is legally changed). Thanks for the ideas - I have to figure out how much time in Ontario you need to get the license and certificate done. My parents will know, but that's it, not sure what to do about witnesses since I don't think you can use parents as a witness. Hmmm.

I guess I didn't mean "trick" them in the sense of going to extra lengths -- I just wondered if there is a way to pull off the ceremony without guests noticing. Our bridal party also won't know, and I figured they would have to sign papers or something -- that's all I meant. Thanks though!

Hi girls, I am wondering if anyone else is getting married prior to going to the DR. We have decided to get the Renewal of the Vows and save the paper work by getting married here first. Is there any way to trick our guests, we DO NOT want them to know about this -- they are flying all the way there to see us be married, so I would feel awful. I would love to hear any advice on how people have pulled this off, or are going to!! Thanks

I used the email address: [email protected] and have gotten replies back from her each time I emailed. Good luck!!!!

I have never heard of p90x - I just googled it, but the guy looks pretty intense! lol...what is it exactly? Wow!! Kudos to you all for going to the gym 5-6(or 7) times per week!! BAHH!! I've been working out at home and doing stairs in my building every day this week -- but I have not been pushing the hard cardio on the treadmill or eliptical. Do you think it'll still be okay? How often should I start going? 6 days/week seems SOO overwhelming right now!! ahh lol

I got an email from her today -- she apologized for the late reply, so I am assuming she is just going through the ton of emails she's gotten lately!! I emailed about a week ago, and just got it back now -- so hang in there! glad to hear you got a guest booked situation!!

Can I join? Or is it too late? The only thing is -- I don't have a scale here -- and am putting off buying one!! BUT...I can send a before pic.

Woo! So excited - I've been wondering where all the June brides were!! June 28 - Grand Palladium Punta Cana! Then we're moving to Dreams Palm Beach for another week and our honeymoon!! I am so excited too -- I want it to come now!! I have got my dress (it's ordered), I've sent out STD which my FI made and we got into magnets. We've got 15 people booked so far, and the others have invitations and information. I have NO idea what my FI will be wearing yet. Photographer is booked -- and other than that, not too much to plan! I am so excited. But I've started my bikini beach diet -- lol....I'm tiny (short and small), so it's not so much of a weight loss diet but definitley toning. If anyone else wants to start a support group on that -- I'd love it! lol

Ughh!! that is so annoying. You need to say something -- I would be so embarassed if someone came up to my area at work and was talking about inappropriate/HS things. I feel for ya!! Keep us posted on how it goes!

I agree with all of the above posts -- it also may be nerves. Both of you could be jumping to conclusions, or lacking the motivation to communicate because it IS coming closer and you are nervous...it's a big step. Sometimes, nerves can be misjudged as "not going to work". I agree that a pros and cons list, and also a good sit-down talk with your FI will offer guidance in how you should proceed. My FI just got in a big argument last night, about our DW (budget, guests etc). We are perfectly fine -- but it shows that wedding planning is a stressful thing, that can fog our judgement.

I would be straight up with her and tell her that you aren't as close as she thinks you are. That being said, I am a really straight up person, especially if someone is bugging me like that. She sounds like she needs you to just be up front with her about your real relationship, as if you are just polite and give advice about her...she'll ignore it. It's a tough situation, but I would definitely be putting an end to it - mostly because I would find it really irritating to have someone like that buying me things and expecting something from me that I didn't want to provide. Is that harsh? lol

I agree -- and went through the same situation - my FI mom is a teacher. We did change the date - but I was happy about it because it was sooner! We had planned for October 2010, but moved it up to June for that very reason. His mom cannot come until 4 days into our week, but she was fine with that because at least she can come. You will always have people who may not be able to come -- my sister is a single mom, and is struggling with the idea of paying for such a lavish trip. I was hurt at first, but completely understand now that it may be hard for her to come. It's best to keep your head up and remember....even though it's hard....to not take it personally. Don't let other people's desires influence what you do!

I have just been reading healthy eating blogs and recipes online - but my diet basically consists of: Oatmeal with cinnamon, hard boiled egg, some oranges (I change to one of these every day). I'm a student, so I bring homemade trailmix with me for a snack and also water and more little oranges. For lunch I have a home made fruit salad made with nectarines, kiwis, oranges or pineapple (so good). Dinner, we've been having a lot of home made sushi lately - I only like the veggie ones, so mostly cucumber and avacados - or just cucumber. If not that, we have been making home made soups. We've cut out all pasta, processed foods (mostly..!) and have been experimenting with home made dips like hummus, eaten with vegetable sticks from Bulk Barn. It has been soo easy, mostly becuase I love sushi but I just need to keep up with the exercises daily. I live in a building that has 10 floors, so I have been doing stairs every day - I do 300 sit ups and squats daily. I also try to get to the gym to do some cardio. I am finding it hard to see a difference in my hips and upper legs/butt. THAT is what I would appreciate help on! lol...any ideaS?

I am so sorry to hear the news of you both - I cannot imagine how upset you must be. But, keep your heads up and don't let it get you down - things can change on a dime, so hopefully people will cancel or some other arrangement can be made! I hope for you both.

No problem!! It helped a bit -- I think it will take me a few times of looking at that every day for it to really help though!! I'll be thinking of you both also!! we are both getting married in June - so we have time to prepare!!

Hi!! thanks for all the tips -- I am going to look into both the herbal remedy and the hypnothereapy. I also wanted to share this link that I found. It is essentially a youtube site for flying - you can choose whether you want a passenger view (in the plane looking out the window) or cockpit view, side lines etc -- and then choose whether you want to watch the take off, landing etc. It is a little scary, but actually feels like you're sitting looking out the window. Aviation Video: Boeing 737-800 - Continental Airlines check it out and let me know what you think!

Thank you!! That helps - I know that you can get anxiety pills to help with the flight, so I will be doing that. I don't know where it came from, I never used to be afraid. It's just brutal that I'm ALREADY stressing about it. Thanks for the tips!

Does anyone else suffer from a fear of flying? I had a bad flight last May and have been experiencing panic attacks and major anxiety about flying -- yet I'm still having a DW haha. Go figure. I'm just wondering if anyone else feels the same, and what you do to help try to get over it for the flight.

yay!! congrats!!! That's such great news!

Hi girls.! I just need to write because I'm feeling guilty right now lol...I'm home all day today (I had class in the morning), so I did some work out excercises for 30 minutes while watching "Buldging Brides" for motivation -- and I have more free time now until 5, so I could go to the gym (which is in my building lol), but I would rather lay in bed and do some work. I really have no excuse, so I'm feeling like I should go. I might go tonight, because I love watching the Bachelor (my weakness is that I'm a reality show junkie..anyways) so I think I will make it my reward tonight after the gym. what do you think? lol ever feel like this?

Do you thikn she will be able to come? Why do they have to wait unti March? Money? I know how frustrating it is -- and I hope they are able to find days to book! I will wish for you!

NO! I am soo sorry to hear that. I can't believe it....thats one of the worst outcomes. When were your guests planning on booking, like soon or were they waiting?? Can they come a different day than you? Like - a few days before or after, but still be there for the wedding. That's what some of ours are doing.