All of you ladies make really good points. Our main decision behind a destination wedding is that neither one of us wanted a big wedding with lots of people, a reception, dancing, bridesmaid, groomsmen, etc. I never had a dream wedding in my head, but after going on several vacations in the Caribbean I felt like it was the way to go. When we told people our decision some people said they would come and others said they understand our decision and just want to see the beautiful pictures. FI and I truly expected it to just be us on our wedding day. No matter what the wedding industry tries to tell you, your wedding day is not about everyone else it is about you and FI. My Mom and Dad went to the courthouse in coordinating outfits and to this day they are happy with that decision and they are still married. My cousin is on her second marriage and wants to have a second expensive wedding. NOT ME! I’m blessed that no one in my family has called us selfish, maybe because they are just happy I’m actually getting married. I'm at old maid status. Ha Ha!