I think you definitely deserve a rant! My FI and I also had a pact, there were a couple of people we wanted to make sure that would come but aside from that, those that want to make the trip are more than welcome. We'll just see everyone else at the AHR. It seems to me that both you dad and FI's mother are proving that your wedding isn't important enough to them because they're taking other trips instead. I really hope you guys are able to work things out and I'm sure you'll have a wonderful, memorable wedding with the guests that go!