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  1. Quote: Originally Posted by jodieP Hi everyone, Sorry it has taken me a few days to get round to replying to my mini novel of a question! First of all I want to say a huge thank you to you all!! Your replies and suggestions on this situation were amazing! also thankyou all for sharing you personal insight or experiences with us too! I feel so relieved that i Asked such a wonderful group! I honestly feel a weight has been lifted just by sharing this as anyone I have asked so far mum, MOH & FI etc are all a little biased I guess so made it a little harder to stand back and look at the big picture. Hopefully in the next few days BIO dad and I will set a date to catch up and I'll tell him about the plans then, but ultimately I have decided that he doesn't need to be there. The best thing to do will be to be honest with myself and him and let him know how the ground lies. Maybe I would feel different if I were getting married on home soil but Im not and that is the way I want our wedding. It will be a super enjoyable experience and I do not want to referee from now till then so I know in my heart of hearts what to do! THANK YOU all so much for the clarity I got from your responses. Jodie.xxx Good luck Jodie! It will all work out for the best
  2. My dad is coming, but he is not walking me down the isle and we are not having a first dance. I was honest with him and told him how I felt - he can't really get that upset that things turn out this way after making the decisions that he's made. Ok, he might get his feelings hurt but he'll come to realize he can't expect to be distant and not have it bit him in the you know what! Good luck!
  3. I was also on the fence about inviting my dad - we maybe speak twice a year and I hadn't seen him in 7+ years. I went to visit him last summer, and I told him how I felt and the choices that I had: either invite him and have things be awkward or not invite him at all. I think that this really hit home with him and so we went with option #3 - invite him and work on having it not be awkward. He's been really good at writing and calling (for him, being in contact every month is HUGE!) and now I'm really happy that we went with option #3. I would have felt bad either way otherwise, and so telling him how I was feeling was the best decision for me. You have to go with what works best for you, but as long as you are honest in doing so, it will be the right thing. It might hurt, but you might also grow a lot because of it. He made his choices before and made his priorities clear - he might learn the consequences of them now. What he does with that info is up to him... Either way, I know that eventually whatever choice you make will be for the better. Good luck, and hang in there!
  4. I know that there is a wedding right before mine - the bride is on here too. She's booked the full hotel. There's also been others since Crystal's, from what I can tell from Blaire's emails. I second taking a break - much needed for sanity! Crystal, I was looking at your pictures on Michelle's site and I saw that you had sparklers at your wedding. Where did you get them from? I can't seem to figure out a way to get some in PV.
  5. Hi Audrey, félicitations and welcome to the forum! If you do a search for those resorts on here you will find tons of info, and ask questions to those who have been there / are getting married there. From what I understand XEL HA is pretty big, so they may have more intimate areas where the ceremony could be held that would limit the quantity of tourists in bathing suits! Unfortunately that's something that can happen pretty much anywhere when getting married by the beach! Good luck!
  6. Congrats and welcome to the forum!!! It's nice to have other Canadians on here
  7. Congrats and welcome to the forum!!! It's nice to have other Canadians on here
  8. Thank you for all of the ideas! I was also wondering what to do...
  9. Hi! I'm very interested in finding out more about this... when is it "legal" to have them? And I was told that the state next door has them available legally all year-round - would it be possible to have some shipped from there, or would that also be illegal? I would really like to have sparklers but we can't fly with them, we can't ship them... I'm hoping to find options!
  10. We haven't cut it out yet... I'm still toying with the idea. At this point, the wedding is costing us so much that $900 won't make that much of a difference! I plan on talking about it with DH when he gets back on Monday. I'm super excited about Mexico though, I can't wait for all of the planning to be over and for the enjoyment part to begin! How about you, how is the planning going?
  11. Thank you Sara! I'm really feeling as though I'm not having a bridezilla moment but the more I think about it, the more it looks like I'm freaking out for nothing. I'll just re-poof it and move on... it won't kill me that my dress isn't as I had envisioned it! It might look flowy, but it's actually quite stiff on top because of the bottom layers (that I can't remove unless I want the seams underneath showing). They gave me no alternatives, no reassurance, no discounts, no solutions. I kept my composure really well and didn't freak out on them, but I might loose it if they want to charge me to fix their mistake... we'll see in two weeks!
  12. I agree with Lindsay - tell him how you feel! If he can't afford the ring, he can certainly afford to propose. As long as you are actually engaged, the ring can follow after... or he could always get a silly ring and get a better one later!
  13. I think that it's great that you found some room in your budget to get more pictures taken. I would worry if I asked my guests to take the photos that if in the end the photos aren't good, that it could strain relationship. It's all a question of priority though, if you don't really care about pictures, then it's not such a big deal... but if you care, then DIY isn't the right route to go...
  14. The images do look weird, but #1 comes out on top for me! It looks classic and sexy and the colour is great!
  15. Quote: Originally Posted by barbiegirl_27 Here's the dress on me.... I'm going to start looking but won't do anything with this dress until I know for sure what to do. I think that it looks stunning! The ribbon suggestion is a good one though that could change the look of the dress. Regardless, if you decide on an other dress, you could always sell this one - I'm sure that it would sell fast!
  16. Sounds so typical! I get those kind of comments all the time... BTW, asking for colour combos can be a bad idea - I was told Blue and Silver, like the Cowboys' uniform. That got vetoed fast! My favourite though is when you ask their opinion, they says that they don't care, so you do what you want and bam! - they now have an opinion and care a whole lot. So frustrating!
  17. Quote: Originally Posted by rosieposie aww thanks again ladies a coworker overheard my conversation about this with a (close) coworker and said "it's such a shame your father doesn't want to walk you down the aisle. That doesn't make for a very good start to a marriage". i was so shocked i didn't know what to say. she made me want to run to the washroom and cry....but maybe i'm just being too sensitive..... we're already having a chinese tea ceremony beforehand - the part our parents really want us to have, so the western ceremony doesn't mean much to them, it's for us. much better now. yup. its what i want, who cares what ppl might say, as long as we're happy. Oh, what a meanie! Don't mind her, what does she know?!?
  18. Alright, 2nd dress fitting didn't go too well... the dress DOES NOT look better without the poof. It looks crazy! The seamstress didn't even have any ideas or suggestions, and I only went with that dress because she originally said we could do the alteration no problem. Now I feel like they only said that to get the sale... and I feel that my options are either to get a new dress (with less than one month to go) or to re-poof the dress and pretend that it didn't happen. I'm so sad and frustrated - I really wanted to walk down the isle with the dress way it looked in my head... Here are pictures. They aren't the best, but they get the point across. My mom says that it's not that bad... I guess that it feels a lot bigger because it's my dress, my wedding, my vision!
  19. Wow, these chapels look very cool! Coralvita's inside is amazing! Good luck with your wedding!
  20. Alright, as stated in a few posts back my 2nd dress fitting didn't go too well... the dress DOES NOT look better without the poof. It looks crazy! The seamstress didn't even have any ideas, and I only went with that dress because she said we could do the alteration no problem. Now I feel like they only said that to do the sale... and I feel that my options are either to get a new dress (with less than one month to go) or to re-poof the dress and pretend that it didn't happen. I'm so sad and frustrated - I really wanted to walk down the isle with the dress way it looked in my head... As promised, here are pictures. They aren't the best, but they get the point across.
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