One of my BFs has been laid off and out of work for 6 months. I am sure she will have a job by the time my wedding happens in May. But right now she is very stressed about money. I want to ask her to be a bridesmaid but with the disclaimer that is she is not comfortable financially, she can say no and I will understand. (plus, we are having a destinatin wedding) Do I give her the option to say no or let her tell me she can or can't? I want her to know I am sincere in wanting her to part of the wedding but I want to be sensitive to her situation.
Thoughts?