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Quote: Originally Posted by meghan Im trying to figure out if I should have a cake or not. Nicole, did the cake taste good that you had? And what kind of icing was it? What is everyone else doing for cakes/dessert? I wasn't going to have a cake but everyone keeps saying I need to have one so now I'm having a cupcake cake. I'm trying to figure out if I should have one cupcake per person. We're having about 60 people but I only asked for a cake for 40 people. I'm stuck. I don't really eat cake and I know a lot of people don't eat it (especially since we're probably gonna be doing heavy drinking) but I don't know what to do.

Here's a pic of the cake I'm getting:

We're having a cupcake cake at the reception instead of a traditional cake. We're having about 60 people at the wedding. I'm wondering how many cupcakes I should order. Should I order the exact number as the number of guests or should a order a couple more or a couple less?

We're going to give out our bags at our welcome cocktail reception.

Quote: Originally Posted by Paige2010 Thanks for all the great suggestions- I'm planning on taking my bags and hoping to have them handed out by the front dest when the guests check in. Check with your resort because some resorts charge to deliver bags to rooms so they may charge to hand them out as well.

I'm not having a card box because I'm not expecting any cards. I guess I'll have my mother hold onto them as well if we happen to get any.

I'm not getting anything. He has a milestone birthday a month after the wedding and I'm giving him a big party and big gift for that so I don't think we're exchanging wedding gifts.

Quote: Originally Posted by meghan omg I just realized that the reception for a private event is only 4 hours...I thought it went to 11 pm! This means if our reception starts at 5:30, our party and dancing is over at 9:30!! If we want to go later we have to purchase an extra hour and half....god only knows how much that will cost. Has anyone else been told about this? Is anyone doing a cocktail party? If so, how much is costing you per person approximately? My wedding is at 3pm. I set the reception to start at 5. I figured if it's over at 9 anyone who wants to go to a disco can go to their room and change and then meet around 10 for the disco. I'm not doing a cocktail reception the day of the wedding. I hadn't thought about what people would do in between the wedding and the reception. I guess that's one more thing I should start thinking about.

Quote: Originally Posted by Meitra Wow! I completely agree that only the named guests on the invitation should attend. That means if you are not named, you are not invited. My resort is reserving all the rooms for my guests until 6 months before the date. I think I will give them the guest list and tell them not to allow anyone to book a room that is not on it. I also think I will add something to our website in the RSVP area that says "Please do not bring guests that are not specifically named on your invitation as we want an intimate ceremony." Is this way too rude I also have the additional issue that I do not want anyone to bring their kids. If they can't make it without them, then don't come. Now how do I convey that? I think if you put in the RSVP area that guests not named on the invitation aren't invited, people should assume that means children as well.

We're doing a welcome cocktail reception which is on the pool deck so maybe it will turn into a pool party. That's where we're going to hand out the OOT bags. I don't think anybody is expecting it but I think it's something nice to do.

Quote: Originally Posted by Sylvie143 Ladies, you're right to each their own.....I still am on the hunt for the perfect dress my first fitting didn't go as I thought it would, the lady was awful, I was trying on a pretty Maggie Sottero dress.... some of the other ones didn't fit and this one fit beautifuly and she made a comment that Maggie is a big girl herself so she caters to that type.... I expected walking out of my first fitting to feel beautiful instead I walked out with a complex..... not ideal for your first fitting, but I was happy that my FI was there, because he put a smile on my face =) What she said is awful. People just don't know what to say sometimes but like you said at least your FI was there to make it better!

I'm getting legally married in the States too but I really don't want anyone to know that so I'm going to try to keep the vows and ceremony kind of traditional. We're doing the sand ceremony and we're exchanging vows and rings.

Quote: Originally Posted by TonyandTricia I never thought of wax. That's a great idea I might have to look into. OR...you could just do what my fiance suggested...just pour it over with new sand when you get home...SERIOUSLY!?!?! My mouth dropped open. Guys just don't get it. HAha! LOL....they're clueless! Bless their hearts!

That's good to know.

I invited 4 co-workers who are all really good friends outside of work. I'm going to have a small AHR (really just a cookout in my backyard) so I'm going to invite them to that. If you and your boss are pretty good friends, I'd invite her even if I know she can't come. It's the thought that counts.

My wedding is in July 2010. I started planning in August 2009 and decided on a resort in September 2009, so my timeframe was about 10 or 11 months. I think the only negative thing about it being too far in advance is that prices aren't available that far in advance and you may get your heart set on a resort and then find out the prices have risen drastically or that the airfare is unreasonable. I think a year is a good time to start the actual planning process but two years is fine to start getting your ideas and thoughts together.

I wouldn't think you could carry it on because it's glass so it may be best to wrap it an pack it in your checked luggage.

I think you should definitely have a shower even if it is you second marriage and if your attendants want to throw you a shower you should go for it. As someone said before people have baby showers for their second baby so what's the difference. If someone has a problem with the fact that you're having a shower they probably won't come anyway. And if you said you didn't even have a shower the first time you got married there really shouldn't be a problem.

I like the idea of sitting in the middle with the wedding party on either side of you and your parents across from you. Other than that I'd let everyone else sit wherever they want to.

-We're staying together the night before -My son is walking me down the aisle -No veil -No garter/bouquet toss -No DJ at reception -No rehearsal dinner and maybe no rehearsal (some of the wedding party aren't arriving until the day before the wedding) -Invitations still haven't been sent out even though over 50 people have paid deposits for their rooms and airfare -No flower girl/ring bearer -No father/daughter or mother/son dance -No assigned seats at the reception. Sit wherever you want. -No engagement party

My FI has seen a picture of the dress but he hasn't seen me in the dress. I really don't see why it's such a big deal. I was going to bring the dress to my house to hang up but everyone said "no he may see it." I'm like so what but anyway the dress is at my mother's house now so I'm sure he won't see it before the wedding but if he did I don't know what the big deal is.

As a lot of people have already said I think you should have both of them walk you down the aisle especially since they've both been a big part of your life.

Quote: Originally Posted by Sapphire723 Do you have any objections to going to a different resort altogether, like Secrets, for your honeymoon? We're going on a cruise for our HM, so that we don't have to worry about sharing it with guests. No matter which resort people stay at, if they want to find you and bug you, they will. If your FMIL doesn't understand why she's not invited to your honeymoon, then it's time for your FI to set some boundaries. I completely agree!

This is a good question (and good answers/solutions) Thanks!

Quote: Originally Posted by taylorwd Amy, When I spoke with Tiffany on the phone a while back, that's what she told me. No balloons, bracelets, confetti, or projection screen unless we paid the higher price. I don't see it in print anywhere; that was all verbal over the phone. In November or December, perhaps? I have the exact quote at home and not in front of me...it could have been $3200 and not $3500, but it was definitely over $3000! There are four packages. The cheapest is $1500. The middle two are $2000 and $2500 but can only be used if you're having your reception on the beach and the most expensive is $3500. They're all listed on the Lomas website.