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I have been struggling with the same issue and started a thread about it last week... http://bestdestinationwedding.com/fo...someone-52131/

Kelly, You look gorgeous!! Really you do...don't focus on the weight...focus on your new marriage!!

Quote: Originally Posted by creoletexan Thanks! I went to honeyfund.com. Thanks...I will take a look!!

Read my copy...what a great idea...and I loved reading the stories about other members.

Maybe you can invite her to "another" wedding dress shopping expedition if you are planning on doing more than one. This is what I am doing. For my very first shopping trip...only the people that are the closest to me are going. I have three other trips scheduled and have divided these trips among others that were sweet enough to want to go shopping with me. No hurt feelings...and I have my mother and those closest to me with me on my first and probably largest bridal shopping day. Just a thought.

What a great idea!!! You deserve it...may you have many, many more happy years together!! BTW....can someone point me in the direction of any websites that do this? Thanks.

Just wanted to say Congrats Lisa!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by creoletexan I asked them about that, because I wanted a linen suit for my son, and he'll be 19 months by the wedding, and they told me to send them the measurements and mention that it's a for a child. I haven't done it yet, I'm waiting till like a month before to order his, because there is no telling what size he'll be in 7mths. Thanks for posting this...I want to place an order for an 11 year old cousin of mine that is going to be in the wedding.

The dress is gorgeous and you look beautiful in it...just perfect really.

Your pictures are stunning!! What an amazing job your photographer did!! You were gorgeous by the way!!

Sheree....vent all you want!!! December 1st is so close. I'm sure that it will all work out..people tend to wait until the last minute....especially in this economy. Hang in there. Christie...thanks...I honestly have just told folks what I have said here....we only invited close friends and family and that meant excluding many. As such....I can't justify their extra guest. I have told them that I hope that they can still come...but if not...I understand. I do not want to get into allowing folks to pay for the cost of the extra person because I know that I would not take their money. Enjoy the rest of your weekend too!!

Quote: Originally Posted by latoya1908 Are we talking about the actual destination wedding or the AHR?? As for me, I NEED MY 10 ROOMS!! LOL!! With that, I don't care who comes at this point, and since Sandals Grande Ocho Rios is a couples resort, I need to have all guests to have a travel partner anyway. We're not doing a formal reception after the ceremony in Jamaica (I can't imagine paying extra for food that's already included in an all-inclusive resort so we're just going to all eat together at one of the restaraunts), so the number of people that join us there is no issue. Now as for our AHR, that's something different. Whoever we address the invitation to is who we're inviting...period. It is for the wedding...the resort is not all-inclusive. I could use the rooms too, but to be honest, I have to get far too many rooms at my resort to make it finacially feasible or worthwhile to just allow extra folks to attend.

Quote: Originally Posted by clfaidl2 I invited everyone assuming they could bring a guest. I just felt that if the role was switched and i had to shell out a lot of cash to go to someones wedding that I would want someone to go with me. Most people don't want to be the odd man out and to be honest I wont get to spend as much time as i would like with everyone that is attending the wedding...it is the honeymoon as well after all. So, I think it will make the guests more comfortable having someone they are comfortable with. If the role was switched, and I had to go and not take a guest I would not go. Is there any way you can get the guest amount extended? I can extend the guest list....as long as I can afford it. We are not going to an all-inclusive resort. It is costing us upwards of $225-$250 per person for the wedding and welcome reception. I just can't afford to extend an invitation to extra people. If I had to include them, I may not have had a DW wedding in the first place. I wish I could,..but it is not possible. I am trying HARD to stick to my original plan. Of course...nothing is stopping a guest from bringing anyone they want to the resort....I just can't invite them to the events. One guest even said that they were bringing 3 other people with them...but realize that the invite is just for them.

Quote: Originally Posted by future_mrs2010 I agree with Nadine as well. Im all about the "more the merrier". I think its the best way to go! I wouldnt want someone to travel all that way to our wedding and not be able to have a guest. Hope that helps! LOL!!! Yes...it helps me to see that something I was pretty sure about is not that clear cut!! URGH!!

Quote: Originally Posted by sjmacphe I guess I understand that it is a cost issue...but for me I WANT all the single people to bring a +1 if they don't have a ton of friends coming. I just really care that my guests have a good time, it is a vacation for them - they are paying a lot of money to be there with us...I understand the situation (ie offending your extended family), but if you invite someone who is really close to you, I think they should be able to bring a plus one. If you're not that close to your extended family, how would they even know you didn't know the +1s anyway? It's not the extended family that would know...but our immediate family...the very same people that have requested that invites be extended to distant family members. Also, just wanted to add that as someone that has been a single most of my life, I've rarely received a wedding invite that included a guest...this is true even though I've been a bridesmaid six times...including at a destination wedding. I've never thought twice about it. Then again....I like to travel solo and have done it often. I'm finding that my expectations when it comes to my wedding is not necessarily the same as that of others. This has sure been a learning experience!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Tammy Host i agree with nadine...i would never expect someone to travel on their own if they did not want to. of course it is your wedding BUT don't be too disappointed if people do not come because they can't bring anyone. i know if i was invited out of the country for a wedding, i would sure as heck want to bring someone. Definitely a good point. In my case, each single invited knows very well many other guests. We are friendly through a particular circle like college days, the single girl circuit (LOL), sorority, etc. I don't have any singles coming that is not good friends with at least a few people that are invited. if someone was in the position of not knowing anyone...I would extend the extra invite. There was no way that I could invite these folks with a plus one while not inviting actual friends of ours and other family members. It would be cost prohibitive and IMHO...not right.. They mean the world to me and I want them to be there...so...tough choices had to be made. Now...if they are in a relationship...they can bring the man/woman whom they are involved with...otherwise...I just can't see paying as much as I am paying per guest over the course of three days for people to come that we do not know while ommitting people whom we actually know. Luckily for me...the two people whom I have actually spoke to about this understand and still say that they will be there no matter what. As for the folks and their grown children invites...I think I will leave that to the FI to deal with!! I definitely have to find invites that make it clearer just whom has been invited. Thanks all for the words and suggestions....this is not easy. I feel really bad all the way around.

I knew that this would likely be a problem but it does not make it any easier to deal with. What do you do with your single friends whom are not in a relationship? We only invited close friends and family and that meant that many people whom we are friendly with or family members that are not as close to us were not invited. I feel that rather than allow our single friends to bring someone whom we do not know or care about, we could have invited someone we know or a distant family member. Also...how do we explain these folks to our family whom we told could not extend invites to certain family members. On the other hand, its not the fault of our single friends as the way the on-line RSVP is set up, it provides no limitations on the number of people that they can RSVP for. I feel soooo bad. I assumed that most would share a room with each other....some are...some have asked to bring people. I've already told some the situation and they are fine flying solo...at the very least...they understand. Its the folks whom RSVP on-line and whom do not know the situation whom are a problem...we've already had unexpected RSVP's of uninvited add-ons....from folks of their grown children!!! WHAT to do?

Quote: Originally Posted by goNDmay9 thanks everyone!!! i think the ones that charge $ are the ones that allow you to create your own url like sonnyandcher.com or something like that. (the domain name does cost $) Yes...I think this is true as someone has to pay for the domain name that does not include the name of the website used such as the knot, weddingchannel, etc.

We used Flash Wedding Websites | Design Your Own Wedding Website for our wedding website. It is a "flash" website and is not free..it's $60...but included in that price is the purchase of a domain name...which I like because we got to pick an easy to remember website...one with our first names only...and it allows guests to RSVP on-line.

You look absolutely stunning!!! Nothing at all to worry about!! As for Elise...I can't believe that she left Kleinfelds too!!! That makes three so far...Elise, Carmel and Claudia..

That is wonderful!!! Congrats to you!!

I see that I am not alone. I have a "friend" whom WAS my best friend until about more than 10 years ago. She is very negative and I honestly believe that she secretly resents me. She lives three blocks from me...works in the same building...yet never calls unless she wants something. In fact...up until two months ago...i.e. my engagement, she had NEVER stepped foot in my office in nearly 4 years. Now...she has visited twice...thank god I was not there..sent me an e-mail asking if she was invited to the wedding and finally...about two weeks ago trapped me in the office building lobby asking if she was invited...saying that her "guest" would be nice. The worst part..after refusing to answer her in the lobby she then proceeded to ask me again on a packed elevator if she was invited and how she couldn't wait to go to the Bahamas!!! Finally...in a packed elevator...I had to say to her that I would have to talk about it later with her...we were really just having family and close friends!!! STILL....she asked again...the folks in the elevator were looking at her as if to say "catch a friggin clue." LOL. I bolted out of the elevator simply saying...we will talk!! I honestly think that she thought that she was going to shame me into inviting her!! Needless to say...she did not get an STD. Honestly...I feel bad because I know she will feel bad once she comes to terms with her non-invite. I'm dreading facing her but...there is a saying "straight talk makes for straight understanding." I'm trying to live by this. I am finding that certain so-called friends are coming out of the woodwork. Many whom are just negative people. I do not want negativity on my wedding day. As for the OP...IMHO...you should not invite anyone to an engagment party or shower whom you have no intentions of inviting to your wedding or AHR. Forget what ettiquette books say...think about how you would feel if the situation were reversed. I remember being shocked at being invited to a bridal shower but not the DW. I honestly saw it as a gift grab. That's why I have told all involved in my wedding...do not do that. I know many people whom I like and whom I would love to have at my shower...but just do not feel that it is right. That being said...in the case of the OP...I would just tell her she is not invited. It is rude to assume an invite.

My guests started getting the postcards this week...they LOVED them. The stamps made quite an impression...people could not get over them.

Marne...thank you for sharing!!! I love the dress...you look lovely..ponytail or not. I tell you...the chance to meet Randi alone is almost worth going in and of itself!!

Go to the "Show Me The Ring" forum at Diamond Prices: Diamond Jewelry Facts, Diamond Tools and Consumer Reports Forum and you will see more ring photos than you can stand complete with instructions on how to take these types of photos. Good luck.