I am having a bridal shower...my sister, who is my MOH, insisted that I do I am also only inviting close friends and immediate family to the wedding, however I am having an AHR (a cocktail party), to which our other friends, coworkers, and other family (cousins, etc.) will be invited. I searched the forum and also the internet to see if there was "proper etiquette" as to who should be invited to a bridal shower when you are having a destination wedding. I found that if you are having a DW and an AHR, it is okay to invite those who are only invited to the AHR to the shower also even though they aren"t invited to the wedding. So, I will be having both friends and family who are invited to the wedding and those only invited to the AHR at my shower. Also, I am going to be asking the guests who are coming to Mexico with us not to give us wedding gifts, so it doesn't look like we are just trying to get gifts from our friends and family, especially when they are traveling so far for our wedding! Hope this helps!