Lalanyc, that is exactly the point that I am trying to make to everyone. We are doing a destination wedding to keep it a small, private wedding with close friends and family (probably 30-35 people). I am just afraid with all these other people, it will not be what I had in mind of having a DW for in the first place. Think I am going to have to try some of your reasoning. It is also my FMIL, which is a situation that my fiance is going to have to tackle.. just wanted some tips to help him out. Thanks to everyone for their help!