Hello!!
1) There are several reception dinners you can do for a fee after the wedding:
-Standard cocktail reception for 30 minutes at $15/pp
-Private Cocktail Reception for 1 hour at $25/pp
-Private Dinner for 2 hours at $50/pp
-Private Wedding Reception and Dinner for 3 hours at $75/pp
I've been told that if your group books 10 or more rooms you get the 30 minute reception included.
2)I've also heard that no outside photographers are allowed unless they stay as a guest for at least 3 days (i think, might want to double check me) I am bringing a good friend down to take pictures
3)Can't help you there... it is REALLY cute though!!
Hope I helped!!