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Also Jessica PM me if you want pics of the dress - I have close up, full length front and back... I'm not sure if you will want them, but if you do i got em

Jessica that dress looks so good on you!!!!! I can't believe you have that dress. Its so good seeing it on a real bride - the model pic the bodice doesn't look that sparkly, but it sparkles in such a nice way in your photos. Pronovias huh - thats such a difficult one to track down as its probably one of the 100's of smaller designer labels under the Pronovias umbrella! At least its a starting point! Thanks so much for your help! BDW magic!

No guesses for my mystery dress?? knowing my luck it will just be another dress that noone in Australia stocks!

Hi Sheri As I read this thread I am almost in tears for you, I am so lucky that I have a great relationship with FI's parents. I did want to write a post to you, as I also shared this story with my mother who went through all this and worse when she married my father. My grandmother tried every trick in the book, even crying, on her knees begging dad not to marry mum on the morning of the wedding - threatening to kill herself if he went through with the wedding. My grandmother has mental health issues (undiagnosed for about 20 years of psychotic behaviour towards my mother!) but has always been very nasty about my mother. When she used to babysit my sister and I when we were little, she used to tell us that mum doesn't love us, that she is never coming back and that she just has us around so that she can steal my dad away! Of course, once we were old enough to tell my mum that this was going on, the babysitting ceased... After mum had read your posts she just wanted me to pass on this message to you. Next year will be my 30th wedding anniversary, and I have spent my life with my soul mate. We have travelled the world, had two beautiful girls, and now have a wonderful grandson. Going through everything with Tom's (my dad) mother - I never thought I would get through it, or come to a place to forgive her. I never thought that my married life could possibly be this wonderful, when it started off with such hate and spite. I have been in your shoes. I tried everything. I know the cost to your relationship. I just wanted you to know that in the end it is all worth it. My life is wonderful, but only because I never let her actions or words get in the way of our marriage. My husband is a very loyal son (only son and of Italian decent to boot!) and I have never stood in the way of their relationship, or her relationship with my girls. But you have to draw a line, and learn to ignore it so it doesn't poison you. 30 years later I would not trade what I have for the world, my relationship with my MIL has made me a stronger person, and made me truely appreciate the love that my husband has for me Just thought you may like to hear from someone who has walked in your shoes and come out the other side I know it seems dark right now, and I hope that it makes you & FI stronger. All the best xxxx

OMG! What great ideas - I did our save the date magnets which I was so very very happy with.. but I didn't even know you could do your own stuff in powerpoint and upload it

I'm with the other girls - i think its a nice way to tie them to what you are wearing as well

They look great! good job!

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I am currently trying to convince my FI as well! I would just love to have some natural photos of the two of us, not all dressed up in wedding gear, just the two of us in a romantic place. I just think when I am older I will love to have those photos from when we were young, natural and in love. My FI and I are all about compromise with this wedding. If he does something from my list, I will have to do something from his list that I wasn't too crash hot on. So for the engagement photos - we will be getting them done, but I also have to organise footy jerseys for the bridal party boys and my FI and FFIL and FOB (FI is a massive footy head).

That is amazing! Oh wow - i love it, you have done an awesome job!

She is 14 - will she even kno the difference between a MOH and bridesmaid - at that age I probably thought it was the same thing... I wouldn't even bother having the conversation... Let the friend you want to be MOH know that she is the MOH. Then when you are sorting out nitty gritty little white lies will heklp to smooth over things - I doubt she will even notice... "I want xxx to stand closest as it will balance out the pictures with height", ""xxx needs to sign as a witness as you need to be over the legal age to sign a legal document", "I dont want to dress you in a style thats too old for you, you should look young, hot and fresh - how bout you wear this dress insted?"

I just knew this would happen - I saved a whole lot of pictures to my desktop and haven't saved their designers - and after trying on a couple this weekend - I LOVE this dress and want to try and find it so I can try it on... I am hoping that you lovely wedding dress experts will recognise the dress or at least be able to point me in the right direction??

If your FI looks fantastuic in the shirt I think it deserves inclusion in the wedding. I would probably use the Deep purple and light blue as your main colours and use lime green for splashes and highlights - I think it will add depth to your colour palatte and allow room for really fun little features...

so wow factor - i love it!

I agree 100% with islandbride317!! maybe this has killed two birds with one stone - she wont be at the wedding AND she will be so 'offended' she will never speak to you again - WIN-WIN

I know weddings are all about the bride, but i think she was being really thoughless. poor you! Not only has she pretty much put your weddings in 'competition' with each other - but she is practically forcing a 'popularity contest' in your family! I'm so sorry I dont have any solutions for you - in her email did she say there was a really good reason for her date?? maybe explain the situation you are putting the family in, and that since people have know about your wedding for a while now and have made plans to attend, you just wouldn't want her wedding to suffer... turning it around to show her that it may be her wedding that noone attends may persuade her to postpone her date a little... sorry hun

I am so glad that other girls are having this struggle! The whole reason we decided to have adesination wedding was that we had an engagement party with 150 people and it was crazy! I didn't see my FI except when we cut the cake coz we had to split up to cover all the guests! All my family and friends travelled at least i.5 hours to be there and I felt like I saw each one of them for about 2 minutes each! I spent the whole day feeling guilty that I only spent a couple minutes with so-and-so, when my closest friends had flown in from all over Australia to be there and all I wanted to do was spend some time with them! We wanted a wedding that was small, with only our nearest and dearest, so instead of offending a whole lot of family, we decided to have a DW - and now eve thats getting out of control!! I don't know how its even possible but there are more poeople on the guest list to the wedding then there were to the engagement party! and then there's FMIL's firneds from work etc etc. I know this is a holiday as well as a wedding and people want to bring their friends too - but this is crazy. I like the good cop bad cop idea! might have to start pulling that out

Hi Ladies Just thought I would share as Vista is now making photo flip books! http://www.vistaprint.com.au/photo-f...7%3a51%3a37+PM and they are now 50% off too! I think they would make great bridesmaid gifts - photos of your friendship through the years and then wedding photos. Or a cheap way to do books of your pics for family that couldn't come - like granparents. At that price you could choose your favorite 20 pictures of your kids each year and have a book of them!

They look great. I am also a fan of dafont - too many choices tho - my list of 'i loves' is about 30 fonts long and I keep trying to think of projects where I can use the stars one, or the fire one, or the circus

hahaha love it!

I agree with Meghan, doesn't matter what you write, people will do what they want in the end anyway! I dont think it is rude at all after all people are paying just to go to our weddings!

what a creative FI you have! Lucky girl - and now you have such a cool story congrats on all your recent successes!!

Yep thats the real story. Sounds waaay more romantic than it actually was Wrist is fine, but I have never been so greatful for travel insurance in my life!

They look great1 well done!