I am trying to do the impossible - avoid hurting my sis but not have her in the wedding. As of right now, my sister is just barely accepting that I am getting married on a beach (aka NOT in a church) by someone other than a Catholic priest, to a person she doesn't like. She and I have tried to be tactful in our discussions, but it is obvious she is not thrilled about the wedding. I was her MOH, but with our disagreements about my wedding, I don't want to ask her to be mine. I went ahead and asked my wonderfully supportive brother to stand up with me, but am trying to decide if I should ask her to at least be a BM. The truth is, we only have five months to go before the wedding and I really don't know if she will be supportive enough by then to stand up with me. Should I ask her to stand up or sit down?