Aw Tam thanks!! It was super cute... and now that he is gone away to hockey camp, and I won't be able to join him for about a month, I go to that place (since I work close by) and I eat lunch and smile!
You know Ash, Ben and I went back and forth about this for about a month... its a tough decision! Here's what I think: Do what you guys feel is right for you. Don't worry about anyone else, who might not come if you do a renewal of vows instead, etc. etc. etc. Those that will still come are those that are the ones that matter... so don't worry about that part!
Now, about your parents. That is the part that I would be having the most trouble with, too. Have you discussed it with them? What are their thoughts? I can't imagine getting married and now having my parents there! BUT, at the same time, you can explain to them the cost difference, the significance, and so on and tell them that even though you are getting married October 15th, 2009 that you are truly thinking of your "wedding day" as October 15th, 2010! If they really aren't comfortable with it, and getting married without your parents is something you don't want to do, talk to FI about it. He seems like a very rational and understanding person, and he should understand. We had the same issue, we wanted to get married beforehand and do a renewal of vows, but my parents wouldn't be there... so my parents said that if we did the legal ceremony in DR that they would pay the translation and legalization costs. Good compromise, since that was the thing holding us back as well!
Sorry for continuing the thread hijack... haha xoxo