I think that because of an incident that happened here on this board very recently (with girls getting rippied off badly) that we were quick to jump to the gun! We all look out for eachother on here, and when one girl seems to be having a rough time (with a seller, their FI or DH... etc) we want to help them out and suport them.
We were wrong to jump to conclusions, and for that I think we will all apologize. But I don't think it is fair to call us "pathetic" and focused on material items, and to assume that we only "assume the worst about people" is an unjust assumption in itself, no?
On another note, I can personally say I'm sorry for the loss of your grandmother, I know that is not easy (lost mine to cancer a couple years ago) and to have it happen around your wedding must have made it even harder. Hopefully you stick around on this board, we can be a great mood lifter!!