Hi Clay! I don't think there are any active men in the Dreams Punta Cana part, but welcome!! Its nice to see a man so active in the wedding planning. My fiance is now great with the forum, he says "Go ask the ladies on the forum someone will know" hahaha
The free wedding package does NOT include a dinner, and the cost for the gold dinner is $800 for up to 20 people. I think in theory you could do a semi-private reception, but if I am not mistaken (help me out here ladies) they cannot guarantee that they will be able to seat all 15 of you together at one table.
Have you thought about La Barcaza? It's a kind of catamaran/yacht hybrid sort of thing, and is not much more ($200 or $300 I think) than the traditional style reception at the resort. It includes a boat cruise, a buffet dinner for 20 people, and is much more unique! This is what I opted to do instead of the traditional reception, since my numbers are low. Now, if i had Toya's numbers it would be a different story! haha
Happy Planning, and feel free to ask us all the questions you like!