All I can say is I feel you guys' pain. My parents were telling me we should just have a church wedding in my hometown. But the FI and I always knew we would go back to Jamaica for our wedding.
I didn't budge with my mom and I guess she figured that I wasn't going to change my mind and said they would be there. Her whole thing was she couldn't afford it, but she didn't even know how much it costs.
I have a HUGE family, but we're not backing away from OUR wedding location. It shouldn't be about what other people want. It should be about what you and your FH want.
I really don't want to consider anyone's feelings because we are paying for this ourselves. No one is helping financially, but is quick to offer ideas about our wedding location!