Congrats on the engagement! I know exactly what you are going through, and I'm still dealing with it myself. However, when it comes down to it it really is about what you and your FI want and you should stick to your plan. We've been thinking of changing locations to accommodate my dad's wishes, however today I stated to my FI "when you asked my dad for my hand he said , you know she's stubborn, well I'm being stubborn and I'm planning the wedding that we wanted and everyone can either try to come or they can stay home." It's best to do what you want instead of regretting it later down the road.