I have to admit that I am spoiled rotten. We both are...this thread reminds me of a conversation I had with my best friend a couple of weeks ago.It's what I was doing for him, but this thread reminded me of it so here goes)
I was talking to FRIEND on the phone while I was cooking dinner. (we talk like 5 times a day) I was done cooking dinner and I said FRIEND I gotta go...dinner is done and I am making Johns plate.
She started laughing and said "what Greg (her new FI) asks me to make his plate all the time and I always say NO!" He can make his own plate."
I explained to her that John didn't ask me to do it, I do it b/c I want to. I continued to explain that I don't ALWAYS do it sometimes he cooks dinner and he makes my plate. OFTEN. I told FRIEND that we take care of each other.
Sometimes I come home from work I'm so tired...he cooks, makes my plate, drink, cleans up the whole 9 yards and some nights I do it. Some nights I cook and say "dinners ready come make your plate" It really all depends
In my opinion you have to take care of each other and "baby" each other sometimes. He works really hard and he get's up at 4 am to go to work I really don't mind doing stuff like that....plus he's always really grateful b/c it's not something he expects. Anyway moral is.....take care of one another.