Wow... I think I will get lucky (and unlucky because I really feel bad for my FI)... but my FMIL will not be there. She is currently living with us and has been for the last year. My FI finally lost his patience with her and asked her to find another place. She will be out Nov 22! I can't wait She is unfortunately the type of person that has never took responsibility for herself. She has been married 5 times, 4 of which ended in divorce and the 5th was on its way but he passed on before it was finalized. We were the only ones in her family that would take her in, and now that we can't handle it anymore she has written to everyone and talked about how horrible we are - especially me. She calls me Blecky (bleh). She was told before she moved in with us that we are a NO smoking house and that she would need to contribute $250 as "rent", but mostly to cover utilities. She has the entire basement to herself, living room, full bath, bedroom w/ walk in closet. The only thing she doesn't have is a full kitchen, but does have a mini fridge and microwave down there. That was supposed to be the kids' (her grandchildren) playroom down there but she made such a big stink about the kids being down there and playing we moved it upstairs. Anyway she decides that in July she is doesn't want to pay $250, that she only feels she is getting $100 out of the house and utilities. She also decides that she wants to smoke again. She is on chemo and had to quit her job (that she worked at for 2 years which was the LONGEST job she had in her entire life), so she is on disability. She is fighting cancer yet after 6 months of not smoking decides to start again?! WTF! Anyway so when Jack spoke to her about the rent and smoking issues she told him that she was not going to help him pay for his trips to Mexico (which my parents paid for most of), or his scuba diving, or my engagement ring or for him to have the kids more often. So that is when he told her that she is not paying for those things, we both have good jobs that pay for that. Since she lives in the house there is no reason she can't contribute to it at least until her disability is done. That is the very, very short version! So... although I won't have to deal with her at my wedding, I've had to deal with this for the last year of my life!