I don't know... I know it's easy to get caught up in your own wedding but I just think it's some things you have to go a little easy on. Your friend is having a day of her own. I understand she may have booked the 1st venue that she saw, but I honestly don't understand what is wrong with that. A venue is kinda like the man of your dreams- you know when you know, lol. I can't think of getting married anywhere else other than where I'm getting married at. And I decided that the first time I saw it- didn't even want to look at anything else! I loved it so much, I actually planned the wedding date around the venue's availability! So, I kinda understand your friend. I have made so many concessions for people that I wanted so badly to come to my wedding, and I am beyond disappointed with so many people right now. Now I see why many say "the wedding is for the bride and groom". Maybe it doesn't sound right to some, but I can't see myself changing from the venue I have now because one of my best friends can't come due to her going to another wedding...I wouldn't be mad at her, but honestly there is no way I would change it especially knowing what I know right now & experiencing the disappointment in family & friends that I'm experiencing right now.