That sucks about her negativity! I can undersand if someone close to her died and her not wanting to go back there for her own reasons, and yes you are her best friend but I think I would have to take the friends side on this one. Yes it would hurt me like hell if my friend couldn't be there for me, but put yourself in her shoes for a sec. It is a diff situation but I see both sides here. I think it would be good for you two to talk about this so there are no pent up feelings that explode!