I loved writing the speech.. I was nervous but found this worked really well!
Here's what I did:
- Introduce your self and mention your relationship with the bride (in my case it was my sister) (15 seconds)
- Tell a story or two that showcases how close you and the bride are. A story from childhood, or from growing up? A funny story from college? Anything really, but keep it light and funny. People should be smiling and laughing at this point. keep under 90 seconds
- Talk about how the bride met the groom. Maybe interject a bit of humor here, but the direction of the speech is getting sentimental now -- the reaction you're going for is "awww, that is so sweet" type of thing. People smiling with happiness for the bride.. keep under 1 minute
- Then go on to some recommendations for the bride and groom (maybe 2 each?) It's a pretty quick part of the speech. -- I started with, 'since i'm the older, wiser sister...' I used things like, 'howard, any spider, no matter how small, needs to be dealt with immediately" (my sis is petrified of spiders) and "kara, you must always remember to keep the refrigerator stocked with chocolate milk" (his favorite drink) . 30 seconds
- Finally get really sappy! Talk about how special the two of them are, how much you love them, how you know they will be perfect for each other ("meant for each other" is a good line) and how they will be so happy and you are truly happy for your sister/friend/etc to be marrying such a stand up guy. When I got to the part that I thought of him as my brother, he cried. In fact I had both of them tearing up! 1 minute or less
Everyone LOVED the speech, and while it was a little long ( not as long as it sounds), everyone paid attention the whole time and loved it..