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Quote: Originally Posted by BachataBride Would you ever.... give up BDW?? I would if it got snarky. Would you get mad if your friend breast-fed your baby while you were away for an indefinate period of time and your child was screaming from hunger (read this in my book called "The Ten-Year Nap" which brought up some interesting points from both sides)?

6 years and counting...probably 7 years by the time we are married.

Thanks a lot! I honestly wasn't sure how I was going to go about making a monogram but this has helped a lot!

Today I did my 45 minute cardio and 100 crunches; no more rest days for me on Fridays Also practiced posing and fitted my suits! 8 days to comp time and alimentary freedom.

meow : feline

Quote: Originally Posted by BahiaBride16 Would you ever....tell your friend they looked good, if they really didnt?? No. I would keep a diplomatic silence if I knew it would hurt their feelings or straight tell them it doesn't look good. Would you invite an ex to your wedding?

Quote: Originally Posted by Jennybell1 If you knew your friend's significant other was cheating on them......would you tell them? I would confront the cheater and demand an explanation. Depending on where their headspace was at, I would decide whether it is a good idea to tell my friend or to just let it work itself out. Would you...invite an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend to your wedding?

cow : moo!

Yea I was told $350 when I sent a pic similar to the one with the people in it, but I have a feeling that when they set it up it will just be very basic without flowers and if I want the flowers and streamers off of it then it will be extra. If I end up going the beach route and use the chuppah, I think I will take the same picture I sent her and make sure that is what I get for $350 and not pay any more.

Hey Ash, thanks for the pics! They both look lovely. Did Deyanira say how much that would cost? I am aiming for Aug 28, 2010 for my date. I am very slow with filling the application out adequately though as there are so many unknowns (I don't know how many people plan to not stay at Dreams??) And I am still a bit wishy-washy on TA's and stuff. My FH is completely USELESS when it comes to this stuff so I am pretty much on my own with it. Hopefully it will get done soon so I can move on to more fun stuff.

Hey Ash, thanks for the pics! They both look lovely. Did Deyanira say how much that would cost? I am aiming for Aug 28, 2010 for my date. I am very slow with filling the application out adequately though as there are so many unknowns (I don't know how many people plan to not stay at Dreams??) And I am still a bit wishy-washy on TA's and stuff. My FH is completely USELESS when it comes to this stuff so I am pretty much on my own with it. Hopefully it will get done soon so I can move on to more fun stuff.

Hi! To answer your questions: 1. Is this right? - if your heart is set on a DW, then yes. BUT, the reality is you have to accept the fact that some won't go to your wedding no matter how cheap of a place you find whether it is for cost or convenience or both. If you can accept that, then it is for you. 2. Have we all felt this way? - I think this is a VERY normal reaction. I first balked at the idea of a DW saying that is too much to ask of someone for "my big day." Then I calculated the cost of a local wedding filled with people I don't even really talk to. Then I reconsidered the DW and saw the lucrativeness of a DW from an economic standpoint as well as something that suits my style better. It was an option I couldn't refuse. 3. How did I spread the word: I started with the word of mouth to my closest people to see if they would be up for making the trip. I had quite a few 'yes' at first, and then they started to get wishy washy. I will send STDs when I have my date confirmed at the resort and use my wedding website for updates. I have no idea who will come to my DW...it may be just me and FH, it may be the entire clan. Either way, I am getting the wedding I want

Quote: Originally Posted by mayanbride78 Hmmmm, now what if your MOH (sister) and mother want to throw you a wedding shower for their close friends who can't celebrate the wedding with you in MX. They're mostly family friends. I also have some friends who've said from the get-go that they cant go to the wedding but want to celebrate whatever we decide to do at home (shower, reception etc). My mom insists her friends dont care if they weren't invited to Mexico they want to come to the shower. I'm very uncomfortable inviting ppl coming to the wedding to the shower b/c it looks like i want gifts! And I really don't!! But I want them to be apart of any celebration we have. Can I have 2 invitations, one for my mom's friends with a registry and another for ppl. coming to MX stating they are coming only to eat and drink?!!!... And not mention that I'm registered anywhere. Is it weird to have some ppl. bringing gifts and others not? Ahhh...! I would not give two different types of invites. Something about it screams poor form as one group is told they don't have to bring gifts and another group is not... Look at it this way; you are not inviting them since you are not throwing the shower; your family is. Let them deal with it. You just be greatful for whatever comes your way and enjoy it! Anyone who comes will come because they want to and they will get you what they see fit. Whenever I get someone a gift and they tell me I didn't have to do it I respond "I don't have to do sh*t; I just did it because I wanted to." If I didn't want to get a gift, I would simply not go to the event and that would be that.

I have heard of some discos where they will announce the bridegroom entrance and play their wedding song if you ask in advance. I would inquire with the resort directly on this matter.

Today I did my back workout and 45 minutes of treadmill running. 9 days 'til comp time and alimentary freedom.

Hey Nat, can I see the picture you got? [email protected]. I am now preparing my application for my wedding! I sure hope they have my date (fingers crossed!)

Hey, I would just let him do what he wants. Just let him know, however that he will not be considered part of the group so if anything happens (heaven forbid) that you have to change dates or even hotels, he is SOL. Don't worry; it wil work out in the end

Yesterday I did a midnight leg workout, 45 minute cardio, and 100 ab crunches. 10 days to comp time and alimentary freedom!

Hi! I am strongly considering Dreams Punta Cana. I am also on a budget. To address your questions: 1. The semi-private reception at the restaurant is free from what I understand and is definately possible BUT depending on how large your group is or what is going on at the restaurants at the time, they may or may not do it. Therefore, I would be prepared to set some money aside for a private function. From what I gather from people who did it, it seemed nice enough and secluded enough and they didn't feel that it took away from the 'magic' that is a wedding. 2. Many DW bridegrooms bring their ipods with their music pre-prepared on them and then just rent the speakers for the reception; definately a cheaper option although it does require you to DIY the playlist for your reception (i.e. prepared x hours of cocktail music, y hours of dinner music, z hours of dance music etc). At Dreams Punta Cana, for example, it costs $95 USD plus taxes to rent the speakers for music for the reception. You hook your ipod full of music and voila! 3. Many do the sports bar/disco after their receptions especially since some resorts force you to end your reception by 10 or 11 pm or else pay a hefty price for overtime. Note that kids may not be allowed at the bar/disco. Hope that helps you

Quote: Originally Posted by indy_chic Sigh............. I've been engaged for 6 months now !! I do not have a date , I do not have a venue. I'm very disappointed in friends/family We've considered going away , just the 2 of us. But then thought it would be nice to have close family, friends. I feel guilty not having at least our parents there. I've also asked my bridesmaids to participate (already) and feel bad if I didn't invite them. I've been between a destination wedding and a local wedding for the entire 6 months. Not a day goes by that I don't commit to at least 2-3 hours /day (after working a full day) researching different ideas. Although we'd like to have a wedding here, we'd rather put the cost of a wedding toward a new home and can't justify spending $30,000 on a wedding at this time in our lives. I know, I know , we'll probably get it back BUT what if we don't. Sooo we started looking at destination weddings. I was trying to find a resort that was "reasonable" in price but still had all the amenities to offer. I "introduced" the idea to close friends/family and some of them have expressed that due to finances they cannot attend should we decide to go away. These were the very same people that encouraged us to go away. Everyone keeps saying "it's your day, do it your way" , of course I want all of our friends/family share in our day - I know I'm not going to please everyone I just never knew it would be hard. So we're thinking again about doing something ALONE -without all the added stress. I think we're twins. You are the first person who has successfully voiced everything I have felt in its entirety with respect to my wedding. I mean VERBATIM. I rattled all of the same stuff in my head and was told all of the same things. I have a really hard time justifying spending a huge amount of money on a wedding when there are so much more useful things that we could put our money towards (i.e. home, car, med school, business, etc). I want something low cost and an elopement would do it but I know it would crush our parents and even I want to share the day with a FEW of my closest family/friends. Just continue to give it some thought and eventually you will come to a decision you are comfortable with and will feel better about the sacrifices that come with it; whether it is you miss out on sharing your day with your family or you end up spending a little more to have them with you, these cons will be outweighed by the pros once your heart has settled on something.

Again, a Canadian here, but from Southern Ontario. Open bars are done but so are cash bars. The weddings that I have been to were 50/50 on open bar/cash bar. Never thought anything of it.

Some funny stuff here! Keep it coming!

Oh good things are reviving! I am still good to go!

Today I did my arms and 45 minute cardio session 2 weeks to comp time...

I am sorry that you are experiencing this from your friends. I have had similar comments made to me and my response has always been that unless you are the groom, your presence is not necessary -- appreciated -- but not necessary. I am the one paying for the wedding and I will do it as I see fit for my budget and my tastes. Why cater a local wedding for 300+ people just so they can eat and be hungry tomorrow? Furthermore, many people travel to be at weddings. I had to go to England, Jamaica, and the USA to attend "local" weddings an no one paid for my travel and accomodations -- and I didn't even get a vacation out of it like your guests will at your DW!