So we spent the weekend in New York and told most of the family about the wedding location. We got pretty good feedback.
Of course grandma who has never left NY will not get on a plane, but we knew she wasn't going to make it unless the wwedding was in NY.
Most of FI's friends said count us in, even the ones with kids and even the pregnants ones that I didn't expect to come said to count them in.
So out of the 20 or so people we told the majority are really excited about it. The older generation people, such as his parents brothers and sister are the ones less excited about it, regarless what they say you can see the expressions on their faces.
we tried to explain our reasoning is that we live in Vegas all by ourselfs and me miss our family so much that we want to spend more time with them than the 5 minutes at a typical wedding saying thanks for coming. Most understood how we felt.