*kellis*

That is so messed up. I have been in that situation before but never with someone as close as a sister or future sister. I can't imagine how furious you must be. That was a total lack of respect and responsibility on her part. I agree that you need to have FI on top of this before you start in on his sister, but you and he both need to agree that you do not want things like this happening under your roof. It doesn't matter if it is a friend, or a family member, or anyone. If you just don't say anything, she will continue to take advantage of you two and your home because she obviously has no regard for anyone but herself especially when it comes to her being drunk and wanting some action. Don't just let it go because she is a bridesmaid.

I finally decided to post this, I'm still kind of embarrassed about parts of our engagement story but I'm learning to laugh at myself for almost ruining it. The weekend of FI's birthday this year in June, I had planned this big camping trip with all his best friends as a surprise for him. Two days before we were supposed to be going up north, all of his friends but one bailed(they aren't the most reliable guys ever). I was really upset because I had planned this whole thing and bought a ton of food and now it was only going to be three of us. So I told Matt what I had been planning for his birthday because I just was frustrated and he could tell. At the same time that all this was going on, Matt had been planning to pop the question. A couple days before we were going to go, he had actually snuck my dad's phone number from my phone and called him while I was at work. Now, my dad lives in another state and I don't see him that often so Matt had only met my dad once a few months earlier while he was in our town for business. And he still called my dad to tell him how much I meant to him and that he wanted to ask me to marry him and would like his blessing. Then he went over to my mom and stepdad's house and talked to my stepdad who basically raised me and asked for his blessing. All this was going on while I was at work one night and I was completely clueless. I guess when I told Matt the plan for the weekend, he just decided that this was a good time to do it:) So the day that we were supposed to go camping, basically nothing worked out the way I had wanted it to. I was still upset because his friends blew him off, and he was upset because(me being the girl I am) we all left a couple hours later then we were planning on. He just seemed in a bad mood and that put me in a bad mood and three people being crammed in the cab of a truck for 4 hours of driving isn't the most romantic situation ever. Little did I know that he was in a bad mood because he had planned this whole proposal and things just didn't go right. That night we were sitting next to the campfire and Matt asked me to go get him a beer from the cooler. I asked him why he couldn't just get it himself. He asked me again and I got pissed and told him I was comfortable and didn't want to get up to go get him a beer. I finally got up to go to the cooler and I turn around with his beer in my hand and he is down on one knee in front of the campfire with the ring box open in his hand. I honestly couldn't tell you what he said but all I remember is just saying yes and being shocked when he told me he had talked to both my parents, I just kept asking how and when because I was so completely clueless and hugging him and crying and being so impressed he had gotten down on his knee because he has had ACL surgery on both his knees, all this time holding the beer in my hand with my arms around his neck. So many things didn't go right, like me being a butt and not wanting to get him a beer, and his friend was supposed to be filming the whole thing but for some reason he wasn't paying attention and only started recording right after he had asked and it was too dark to see anything so in our video you can just hear his friend's commentary and me sniffling. But it was perfect because it was just so...us. I also find it funny that I couldn't text or call my family or my best friend to tell them because we didn't have cell phone reception until a couple days later. If you read all of that, bravo.

Dang ladies, I really thought it would be more even then this. But obviously #1 is the favorite. I guess that makes sense considering DW brides are typically less traditional than most. And that's why we are so amazing.

I'm sorry to hear about all of this. Just try to remember that it's when you have times like these that your relationship is tested and a sign of real true love is that you stay even when it's easier or less painful to give up and walk away. You two will be stronger because of this. Just a tip from a very stubborn person, try to look at how you reacted, not necessarily what happened and you'll be able to understand where he is coming from a little better. It's not about who is right or wrong.

Sunday September 6th 1:05 PM. Finally made myself get out of bed and still in denial that I have to work in an hour

As for us, we registered at target and crate and barrel. We did so because we knew that a lot of our family would not be able to make it to the wedding and we will just put the information on our website. Also, while we do both have furniture and what not, it's kind of a haphazard mix of bachelor pad furniture and my craigslists finds and we are both looking forward to finally having our own place together and decorating a home together so I think making a registry was important for us.

Quote: Originally Posted by jamaicabride10 I want to do a registry as we already have a house & everything we need, so we really do not want tonnes of stuff with nowhere to put it. It is quite uncommon to do this over here (Ireland/England), so I know NO ONE will ask where we are registered!! I don't know how to let people know without sounding like we expect gifts! I definitely don't want to put it on the invitation and I think telling everyone by WOM is a bit like 'asking' too....any thoughts?? Are you going to have a wedding website? Then you can put the information on where you are registered on there so people can see it but it's not like you are asking for gifts.

June 19th (hopefully) 2010~ Santa Barbara California

Quote: Originally Posted by midnight24 i voted for #2 as well! #1 seems a tad too short. I agree, #1 is an adorable dress but I don't think I would wear it as a reception dress.

Quote: Originally Posted by jerseykitten I think #1 - #2 is too much dress for you. I agree, I felt like I was swimming in the bottom of the 2nd but it wasn't my size so that might have something to do with it and the train on the 2nd one was too much for me but the lady said she could order it with a shorter one or none at all. But the 1st I would have to get altered because the one they have is two sizes too big but I'd get a discount if I get that particular one. They're being too accommodating, that makes the decision harder.

Aw, thank you ladies. I guess the 1st one is the favorite so far. Then again I guess I shouldn't be too surprised considering it's the less conventional one.

Quote: Originally Posted by courtney_b00 Lol I'm sorry! I do stuff like that all the time. Maybe I should have put the text first. We have a lot of older guests that we are inviting that aren't very computer saavy and they probably won't understand a DW so I thought a little letter might help out some. That never crossed my mind, but we also have older guests and family that have never heard of a DW so that is a great idea. Plus, I've been hearing mixed reviews on having a website. I love the idea and had a lot of fun making it but some are saying that they got little response or RSVPs on their website and I don't want to be worrying that people haven't seen the site and/or our explanation for the DW on there.

Quote: Originally Posted by purrfected My wedding was pink and green. I loved my bouquet. I sent the florist pics and they actually gave me exactly what I wanted, pink roses, orchids and greenery... The bridesmaids' bouquets were mini versions of my bouquet. My wedding colors are pink and green too. I'm so glad to see that it looked so great in your bouquets because people have been giving me some strange looks lately when I tell them our color combo.

Oh, I completely understand what you're saying. That would really bug me if someone did that to me too. I hate when you can tell that people are asking about your life or wedding but they aren't asking because they care and want to know, they just are going to make some passive aggressive comment about it. It's sad that some people have to find fault in other people's lives and happiness in order to feel good about themselves.

Quote: Originally Posted by ashly87 confession: I bought 2 pairs of shoes today and didn't tell my FI because we're trying to save for the wedding (they were on sale and the price was too low to pass up!) I've definitely been guilty of buying little things that didn't cost a lot, like a pair of shorts or shoes then when I wear them, if FI notices, just act like I've had them for awhile. Or like someone was nice enough to hand them down to me. Lets just hope he doesn't notice the old navy receipt on the dresser.

After a few months of searching, I decided to go back to buy my favorite dress so far, I brought my mom with me because she hadn't seen it yet. When we showed up for my appointment, they tell me they had just gotten in new dresses by the same designer as my favorite, Enzoani. So I try on this second dress that I saw, a new one, and now I'm in love with both of them! I just can't decide because they both have great details that I love but they're so different in that one is more form fitting and the other is more of a gown so of course I bring the pictures home to get on BDW and ask you all your opinions because I'm so indecisive it's ridiculous. I need help! Here are the choices...and this is my first poll so forgive me if it doesn't work the greatest and sorry if the pictures are too big. Dress #1 my first favorite Enzoani Denise On the mannequin and on me...You can kind of see the back in the mirror there, even though it is clipped. Dress #2 Enzoani Cairo the only picture I got wasn't the greatest, it was from my camera that the lady helping me took for me, my mom was busy chasing my 4 year sister(who went around the bridal salon informing everyone that she was the flower girl and she had to find her dress). On the model... And on me... I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thanks ladies.

Quote: Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Griffith I confess I just used the last 45 mins of my work day to read this thread...and it is awesome!! So now I will confess..... A girl I used to be best friends with but we kinda grew apart over the last year, moved recently back to her home state where she met a guy and they started dating. They got engaged last week after 5 months together and are planning their wedding a month before mine. Her dad is paying for the whole thing but has the nerve to ask me what kind of budget I am working with (my FI and I are paying for our whole wedding) and tells me "who knew wedding stuff was so expensive!" So not only is she flaking on my wedding, but had the nerve to write me a message on facebook that she guessed I wouldn't be able to make it to her wedding since it will be a month before mine, but to drink a beer on her wedding day to think of her. IS SHE F**KING SERIOUS! Okay now I feel better. Is it wrong to think she is stealing my thunder by getting married before me?? Friends are just like that sometimes. Women just have this need to compete especially when it comes to relationships and marriage. Don't let her steal your thunder, if you don't let it bother you, no one else will notice. Just brush off the passive aggressive remarks and just congratulate her. Afterwards she'll wish she had been nicer. Though I do have to say, even if someone isn't paying for all of their own wedding, that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to budget and be frugal. I am my family's first daughter to get married, it's a big deal to them and so they want to help pay for it. And just because I could ask them to pay for something that costs a lot, I'm not going to because I don't think we need to be spending that much to make our wedding special and I don't want to put that between us in a way that could harm our relationship. A wedding isn't about the money. It's about you and your husband and the people around you sharing the day with you.

This is very true lisa, thanks. He was able to get to the side of the freeway and no one took it or towed it when it was sitting there all night. The poor guy though, his truck has just about had it. Someone rear ended him a month ago and it's still drivable, just has a big dent in the back, and now this. It sucks to be buying brand new tires for an old truck with terrible gas mileage that has just about had it. We would be perfect candidates for Cash For Clunkers right now but we don't want to finance for a new car putting us further in debt and we don't have an extra few grand laying around.

And of course...it just got worse! Last night FI's truck blew a tire on the freeway on the way home. We went to get it this morning and of course we couldn't get the spare off, the spare from my truck wouldn't fit, so we wait on the side of the freeway for an hour and a half for a tow truck who we have to pay for now and apparently we have to buy 3 new tires. There goes another 350 bucks out of the wedding fund.

You learn something new every day, I now know that I can't go to Cuba. And of course now that I know that, I want to

I'm about to make our first order with VP but I'm having a hard time coming up with my own design. I've tried searching for a thread that deals with this but I've tried sorting through it all and haven't found much. So how did you all come up with your designs for std's, postcards, etc.? I've heard powerpoint and photoshop but what if I don't have either. Does anyone know where I can get something like that or is it pretty easy to just design the stuff right on VP?

lil reeves those bouquets are so unique! I love them.

I squinted to read the script in the colored one you posted only to scroll down a little bit and see that you had typed it out. I love the idea of the letter, I will have to consider doing something like that. Makes it a little more personal then just pointing them to the website.

seems like "desties" is getting a lot of votes, it's my favorite too. Just wondering what the look on FI's face will be if I use it out loud:)

So, just a quick update. Last Saturday was her shower and as a gesture of goodwill, I went. Our other roommate went too and we got her a present from both of us, just a bunch of kitchen stuff off their registry. Nothing too crazy. She seemed pretty surprised to see us, and even more surprised that we brought her something. So while she was opening the card with our present, she commented on the shimmery envelope the card was in and how her invitation envelopes were like that too. Then her mouth drops open and she looks up at us and says, oh my gosh I forgot to get you guys your invitations, I figured I wouldn't send them since we live together and I don't know where they went. We just laughed it off, and the past week has been better even at home. No snide remarks or avoidance, I think us going to her shower made the difference. So I guess now I know to expect it. Even though it would be nice if I had the invitation by now so I can know when it is considering October is next month. But oh well. I feel bad for picking it apart so much, especially on here. But hey, that's what we ladies do right? Especially when it comes to weddings.