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Well first, I saw something very similar to that dress at David's Bridal tonight and it was made out of a very soft natural silk material that felt so good. And second, those dresses look like they have some sort of bubble hem. Which is adorable but could pose a problem if your bridesmaids are all different heights and sizes. It could look and feel different on all of them and may be uncomfortable for the taller ladies at a windy beach wedding(from personal experience of being tall myself). Just a thought. Have you tried looking at the places that have a bunch of different styles in the same color? Then you could just tell your bridesmaids what color to get and the length you prefer and let them find something flattering and comfortable to each of them. It will save you a lot of headaches in the future I'm sure.

Teal goes with tan very well, I don't know what you wedding colors are and I could understand if you think that her dress would clash with that but the pictures will still look great even if she isn't your mom's twin. Plus, if you really think about it, how many pictures are you going to have of EVERYONE including both mothers standing next to each other?

Quote: Originally Posted by jstar83 My sister in law said that if we did not invite her to our wedding she was going to crash it! my fiance and I havent spoken to her in over a year! and my in laws are pressuring us to invite her, continously! She's going to crash it? How tacky is that? I love how grown women resort to high school antics when they are jealous or don't get their way. If I were you I still wouldn't invite her. And unless your in laws are paying for the wedding I don't think they should get to pressure you about it. You may just assume that she's going to come whether or not you invite her that way you aren't surprised but she's probably just threatening you and wouldn't follow through on it. I mean, who would travel to a different country for a wedding they weren't invited and not have the though cross their mind that gee, once they get there and make their appearance, (especially if they don't get the reaction they want from you guys) it's going to be one hell of an awkward week for her.

If you look on the bright side, snow must suck but you don't live here where it was 105 degrees every day last weekend. I felt so bad for all the poor ladies I knew getting married this month, they thought they would have beautiful weather and then it's 105. Then again, today was a beautiful 85 so I'm a happy camper.

I can totally relate to what you all are going through. Because of this recession I have had to take a semester off of school and work full time at a restaurant. People can be so rude and I hate it somedays, I get so frustrated and depressed thinking of my high hopes years ago when I started college and how I wanted to do something with my life and now I'm working 6 days a week watching people stuff themselves with shrimp and treat me like I was made to cater to their every need. It really sucks sometimes but I know it won't last forever. And I also know that in these times, I lucky to have even that and lucky that I have some sort of job security. FI was laid off from the job he's been at for years last January and since that it has been one thing after another. He started going to school and started working entry level jobs trying to get into his field and so many times he has been there for a month or so and the business goes under or they have to lay him off to stay afloat. I understand this economy is bad on everyone but it is so hard to be at the time in our lives where we have the most time and energy we ever will and not be able to be making anything for ourselves because we're constantly just trying to survive. At the moment we're broke and exhausted but we're happy because we have each other and we know that we've gotten through this together. Things are looking up in the next couple months, you just have to keep some hope alive, even if you let it go and just cry some nights because you don't know what to do and feel like you aren't doing anything with your life. A great book I just read called, "What No One Tells The Bride" by Marg Stark(AMAZING book btw, I recommend every bride to be and newlywed read it, I even read it out loud to FI on a roadtrip and it started some great conversations) says that sometimes in the "for better or worse" the worse comes before the better but it makes it just that much sweeter. Sorry, I rambled...oops.

No problem, glad we could get you in:) And since neither of us are traveling, you should receive it from me with plenty of time before your wedding.

I would probably be interested in a few for my bridesmaids but I'll have to think about it. I love the idea but then again, my wedding is in June in Arizona so there really isn't much of a need for a pashmina AT the wedding, unless I guess the air conditioning is cranked way down at the reception? lol. Maybe as a gift though.

Wednesday October 21st...9:20AM Been using BDW to keep myself from going back to sleep, had to take FI to school at 6 o'clock this morning but don't have to leave for work for another hour. Just realized I've been on BDW and Etsy for 2 hours. That's more productive then I usually am this early though so maybe I should be proud of myself.

Outlets are your best friend when it comes to shoes and purses. This coming from a self proclaimed Coach addict

I absolutely LOVE this veil... http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=32948625&ref=sr_galler y_13&ga_search_query=veil&ga_search_type=&ga_page= 8&order=date_desc&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title the "straps" on my dress have a ton of bead detail so I want a very sheer veil, I also really want a antique looking broach clip at the top of the veil and I think this would work perfectly. Plus its only 23 bucks! The only thing I worry about is whether it will match my dress. But for 23 bucks I guess if it doesn't I haven't wasted that much.

Find your nearest mall and try Charlotte Russe, I have gotten the cutest peep toe heels there. Also, a lot of malls have those shoe shoes catering to highschoolers, sounds silly but homecoming was this month so they will probably have a lot of sales. I don't know if you have Marshalls or TJ Max out there but sometimes you can get lucky there especially if you have an uncommon shoe size. Just gotta think outside the box a little bit and stray from the places you'd expect to find "wedding shoes". Good luck.

Before you put them on your CC, look for them on Ebay and maybe somewhere like Bluefly.com. It was a dream of my friend's to own some Jimmy Choo's so I went on ebay and found her the exact pair she wanted for half the price.

I have heard great things about Plumerias wedding boutique. I am thinking I will get my bouquet from her and then have a florist friend do the rest of the flowers. I love tropical flowers and would love to have ones that don't cost a fortune to get here and that won't wilt right away in our 100+ degree weather on my wedding day.

What a rough situation to be in. Honestly, if I was you I wouldn't be jumping at the chance to rekindle any friendship because she hasn't really made herself a friend. And as you mentioned yourself, it seems like she's trying to get in your good graces again because she wants to get something out of it. She may not realize it but it seems that way. I would say if I were you I would just let it go. Give her the 5 minute summary of everything you've been up to but don't go any further than that. If she presses the matter of the wedding in a way that makes you think she's fishing for an invitation and doesn't take the hint, then you may need to clarify that you are trying to keep the wedding to your family and closest friends. She may say that she "deserves" that best friend title because of what happened with your ex but then again, that was probably a long time ago and she hasn't done anything even close friend worthy anytime recently. If you really truly miss her friendship and think you could have a chance at working things out(you know better than anyone how she would react to the confrontation about her being less than a friend when she needed you), I would wait until after the wedding because then you can focus on the friendship and not wondering what her agenda is, such as hoping for an invitation or a job lead. Also, don't feel bad about not inviting her, if things have been as weird in your relationship as you say, then it would probably be really awkward for you, her, and everyone else for her to be there.

Hi and welcome to the forum! Funny, I just got one of your postcards in the mail today. lol

Quote: Originally Posted by *Kerin28* Kt- ok let me know. I'd much rather have the white starfish so that it matches my wedding You changed your wedding to home I assume? I did too but I still want to use it Its so nice to have a piece of BDW with us still. Everyone on here has been so great and I still use the ideas. Yes, we're now doing it relatively close to home so that more of our family and friends having financial issues can make it. But I fell in love with the resort that we are having it at, I feel like it is our own little world there. And I would love to still have the starfish because even though our wedding will now be spanish influenced, you ladies at BDW have helped me through so much by showing me I'm not alone in all of this. I love the idea of this starfish being my "something borrowed" even if I'm not on a beach:) Plus, you can't complain about a little extra sparkle right?

Quote: Originally Posted by ebredhawk i am SO glad diane's starfish made it to you in time!! let's keep him going ladies!! kt, just keep us posted if you date changes and we can add kerin to the list! dc22173's clear starfish line-up: 1 ) marryinghimagain - October 15 - Dreams Puerto Aventuras 2 ) meli122 - November 7 - Royal, Playa del Carmen 3 ) angruck- December 12 - Dreams Tulum 4 ) cdnvb9- December 29 - Dreams Huatulco 5 ) kpuckrin- January 12 - BlueBeard's Beach, St. Thomas 6 ) ebredhawk - April 28- Dreams Punta Cana 7 ) future mrs. kt ellis - June 19 - Arizona **(tentative: *kerin28* - June 19 - Worcester, MA)** 8 ) breeze616 - December 10 - Iberostar Rose Hall Beach, Montego Bay We set our date today with the resort! It is now June 5th 2010 in Scottsdale, AZ. And I am more than happy to send it along to *kerin28* after my wedding:)

Quote: Originally Posted by ebredhawk yayyyy i'm SOO glad you were able to get the starfish.. let's keep him going everyone!!! and just because i'm so happy he's on the move still, here's the most recent list if anyone is interested in jumping in where there's an opening! 1 ) marryinghimagain - October 15 - Dreams Puerto Aventuras 2 ) meli122 - November 7 - Royal, Playa del Carmen 3 ) angruck- December 12 - Dreams Tulum 4 ) cdnvb9- December 29 - Dreams Huatulco 5 ) kpuckrin- January 12 - BlueBeard's Beach, St. Thomas 6 ) ebredhawk - April 28- Dreams Punta Cana 7 ) future mrs. kt ellis - June 19 - Southern CA 8 ) breeze616 - December 10 - Iberostar Rose Hall Beach, Montego Bay also, jacilynda, i hope everything is okay with you and your family. that is so terrible that you had to deal with all of that after getting home from your wedding and hopefully things will start to improve for you soon! I'm number 7 on this list and while I'm no longer getting married in CA, just staying here in AZ, I would really still like to use the starfish! So keep me on here. Quote: Originally Posted by *Kerin28* Is there a white starfish? My wedding is June 19th as well and this is the only WHITE starfish list that I know of, but I very well might be changing my date to June 6th so if that is the case then I don't see why you can't squeeze into the list right after me. I will hopefully know by this week whether the date is changed and I'll be sure to let you all know for the list as soon as I can!

I confess that I've been looking at pictures of my roommate's wedding on facebook (that we didn't go to after on and off drama and immature crap that's been going on the last few months) and picking apart all the tacky stuff that was their reception. I feel petty but FI goads it on a bit because he doesn't like them and is mad that he has had to pay rent but her FI(now husband) has been living here free and will continue to do so until they move out next month. But come on, plastic utensils? Pop cans? A completely unaware picture of them waiting for the person who accidentally took their keys to bring them back, he's sitting there looking completely annoyed and she's sitting there at the reception counting the cash they got from their bride AND groom money dances. Wow...

No, I know how much it would hurt him if I even just took it off while we were fighting. Would you ever quit a job because it made you miserable.

No, I know how much it would hurt him if I even just took it off while we were fighting. Would you ever quit a job because it made you miserable.

No, if my kids chose something I didn't agree with, I would let them know my opinion. But if they still make a decision like that, they are adults and I would be there to support them. I'm glad our parents also think that way. FI's brother was married a few years ago and FMIL got drunk before the wedding so she could deal with not liking the girl but she was there to show her support. I think that's the important part. Would you ever adopt a dog even if it means having to train it?

No, if my kids chose something I didn't agree with, I would let them know my opinion. But if they still make a decision like that, they are adults and I would be there to support them. I'm glad our parents also think that way. FI's brother was married a few years ago and FMIL got drunk before the wedding so she could deal with not liking the girl but she was there to show her support. I think that's the important part. Would you ever adopt a dog even if it means having to train it?

I wouldn't be happy about it that's for sure. But I trust him and would try to keep my jealousy under check and keep communication open so I can tell if it's going to be a problem or put him in a bad position. Would you ever not tell your FI if someone gave you money to help out because you don't want him to feel bad?

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