Hmm our wedding is 1.23.2010 and we sent our invites in the beginning of october asking for RSVP's by mid november. MOst of the time I think you know who is booking and who is not. And sometimes there are last minute bookers who rsvp no but still come!
And Yes DEFINITELY send out seperate invites for AHR. OUrs is 2.27.2010 and we are sending them out the first of January.