everyone grumbles. everyone bitches. everyone moans. they are forgetting that for once ITS NOT ABOUT THEM. its about you and your FI. it does get offensive, annoying, and ridiculous. Dont waste your breath because their thoughts will not change believe me, believe everyone... stick to your guns and follow your heart! do not change your decision.. and REMEMBER all your closest friends and family will be there and that is all you need!