Hi Kenya
OMG do I know how you feel..people are selfish, and I hate to say it and I hope it wont happen to you but I had the same experience, down to people telling me why i chose DR instead of somewhere else. The reason i chose DR is because people told me that they had the best all inclusive that would be cheapest for people to go (that was before everyone got scared of mexico) and like you my dad passed away and through all that I was in 9 weddings NINE 3 ,maid of honors and 6 bridesmaids wearing the nastiest dresses you can ever imagine but they were my friends and if they asked me to wear a garbage bag id do that too because it was making them happy. ask me how many of them are coming? whos saying its too expensive, to far to this to that..and i was crushed in the beginning, now i just distanced myself from all of them. because i understand its far and its expensive and i dont expect everyone to come because people have families and responsiblities..but when im not telling u how dare u spend 1k on a pair of shoes, dont dare tell me why did i chose this place. not to mention the fact that before ppl were doing destination weddings that was the dream of my life even as a kid i always said i just want a sick dress, beach and flipflops lol. but i do expect people to be genuinely happy for you as you were for them and the truth is they just arent sad to say. and some people may have been fortunate finding amazing people around them but not all of us have been that lucky.
having a wedding in NY is insanely expensive but besides that ur sayin thats what u wanted...tell everyone to go f themselves or even better just ignore them, thats what i do now and i find that its so much easier..less drama, less BS.
if you need to vent to someone that fully understands you im here