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We're flying our photographer over from NYC in January. Not sure if you've set a date yet, but if Jan 9th is feasible, I'm sure he would be able to do both, and we could split the travel costs.

When, after only a few weeks of dating, if something funny or troubling or happy or sad happened to me, I wished he was there to share it with. We got engaged a month later!

Done: -FI's suit purchased -Hair extensions purchased -Photographer booked (just need to sign the contract) - Wedding Day confirmed -Deposit Paid Not Done: -Anything else! Specifically, I don't even have my dress. I know which one I want, but I've been waiting for a day that I don't feel fat to buy it.

Not a word, no return phone call, no response to the email. No message when I saw her on Google chat this morning. So the ball's in her court, but I'm not holding my breath. In my mind the wedding is going to happen without her, and I'm super excited to be spending ten days in paradise with my fiancee (and then husband!)

Ok, I could see maybe if it was YOUR used bedroom set, as in you had "used" the bed before you met your FI, but someone else's used bedroom set??!!?!?! Maybe your mother is just finding something negative to say because she's jealous that she doesn't have these "freebies" to offer you guys?

Quote: Originally Posted by kpuckrin I'm in this boat too. We're getting married in Jan 2010. We've been searching for a tan coloured suit for my hubby to be but haven't had much luck to date. We're only having one groomsman, so we're just going to ask him to wear tan coloured pants and a white shirt. I'm sure he's already got some of his own. We're getting married in January 2010 and I got my FI's outfit last week at J. Crew. He's wearing a tan (more brown tan than khaki tan) suit and a green and pink tie. I got his stuff before I even bought my own dress!

I really like Penny Vincenzi. Her latest book An Absolute Scandal was pretty good, but she has a series that follows generations of a family in publishing in England that I ADORED. They are No Angel, Something Dangerous and Into Temptation. Also LOVED Sheer Abandon. These books are always among the beach reads in the book store, I definately reccommend checking them out! Finished Something Borrowed in a day. As a female lawyer who works in the MetLife building (like Rachel) who is also engaged, it definately was a book I can identify with. Hoping to finish Something Blue today or tomorrow!

Could you blame it on tech issues? That's always my fall back!

Josee, I am so sorry that you're going through this. Maybe he will be able to attend the at home reception or something like that?

I just got off the phone with JetBlue, and they sent me the following information about their planned direct routes from JFK. VERY EXCITING! New York (JFK) to Saint Lucia (UVF) Saint Lucia (UVF) to New York (JFK) Depart - Arrive Depart - Arrive 7:59 a.m. - 1:44 p.m. 2:40 p.m. - 7:00 p.m. -- Service begins October 26, 2009 ( -- -- Flights operate on Mondays, Thursdays, and Sundays --

Awww, I'm going through something very similar, and I can relate. If three of the four don't come, then what will happen is....well, you'll still be marrying your best friend. You'll still have a blast at the resort, you'll still look beautiful, he will still be the happiest man on earth. See, nothing much changes, but the surprise is tough, especially when these are coming up last minute. I've got my fingers crossed for you!

Ok first of all, wow! Thank you guys so much for all the support. I've never been much of an internet message board person, but I definately see the allure in it now. It's like the best of human nature all rolled into one message board! You guys raised a REALLY good point, one that I hadn't seen because I was so hurt, and that's that it may just be a money thing and that was uncomfortable for her to say. When I thought about that, I had a lot more symptathy. FI was great, being the girl that I am, of course it spiralled out of control into "well maybe we should just cancel the whole thing, it's asking too much of people". He calmed me down, made me dinner and breakfast in bed. He's super! So here's what I did. I called JetBlue, because I saw they are beginning service to St. Lucia. Turns out that there will be direct service THREE times a week from JFK! They haven't finalized the timetable so they don't know which three days that will be, but that's A LOT better than one! What I proposed was: (a) to pay for one ticket in its entirety (one of her points is that when she said yes, she assumed it would be like St. Thomas, where tickets were like $300 each, so paying for one ticket would make it about $300 each); and ( to pay for nights at the resort to take them from Sunday to whenever the next direct flight from JetBlue was. I have my fingers crossed, they are proud people. I definately don't want them to feel like charity cases, so I also said that if it still is too much money, that i completely understood, it wouldn't affect our friendship, and that I hoped they could come to Tennessee for our hillbilly AHR. I'll let you guys know what happens. Thanks again, I feel so loved!

I just got an email from my MOH saying that she isn't going to be able to come to my wedding because she didn't want to travel 24 hours (12 hours with layovers each way) for a 5 day trip. I'm not really sure what to do or think. I'm almost in tears right now. The email went on to say that if they flew direct, they would have to stay a week, and that would cost them $2000 or more, and that wouldn't work because they both were recently laid off and when her boyfriend found a new job he took a paycut. So I TOTALLY understand the not being able to afford it because they were laid off, the part I don't understand is that they are able to afford it if they stay for 5 days and flew with layovers. However, it seems that now they "have" to stay a week (2 extra nights) the cost has become too much. I don't know what to do. I really think the issue is the long flight. Yes, I understand that it sucks, but I'm her best friend. When she and her boyfriend got laid off, I let them stay at my house, rent free. I've always been there for her, and now I feel like she can't be there for me because it is inconvenient! If it were just the money, FI are fortunate enough to be in a position where that isn't really an issue, we could pay for them, it would put us back, but it certainly wouldn't break us. But I can't help but be hurt by this and I worry that if I paid for the costs, I would be bitter because I can't shake the feeling that she's being a bit selfish. To make matters worse, we had always intended our wedding to be very small. Myself, my FI, both sets of parents, my best friend and my FI's best friend. This means that if she doesn't come, there will be NOBODY standing next to me, which makes me sad. Help. Do you guys think I'm out of line thinking it's selfish to not want to sit on a plane for 12 hours? I thought having a DW was supposed to be less dramatic!

I think this should work...photobucket hasn't been working all afternoon. Men - suits - Irish linen Aldridge three-button suit jacket - J.Crew Men - dress pants - Irish linen classic-fit suit pant - J.Crew

I was just in J Crew at lunch to buy a bathing suit and they had their linen suits on sale. I ended up getting FI's wedding suit for a bit over $250, which is A LOT less than the ones at Brooks Brothers!

I agree. I went dress shopping with my MOH and it was not a helpful experience. Anytime something looked bad (and most of them did) she would bust out laughing. That's just her personality and one of the 39204320497 reasons she is my best friend. Decidedly NOT helpful for wedding dress shopping though. I got so discouraged that I didn't look at a bridal dress for 6 months. When I got "back in the game" I knew I was going to do it alone and it was overall a much more pleasurable experience. I've been living with my body for 27 years, I know in my gut when something looks good, and I trust my gut. Nobody else's opinions matter anyway, as long as you feel beautiful in the dress, it is the one for you!

Friday after Labor Day is great for me. Both sets of parents are meeting each other Labor Day weekend, god knows I will need a drink or 12!

Welcome JAM! I'm getting married in January at the Sandals St. Lucia Regency. I've only just started the process, but I'm working with TA Jennifer who knows Sandals really well and has been so helpful, so that would be my first reccommendation. I've also started working directly with the wedding coordinator (one out of Miami, from what I can tell they have one that works with you out of Miami until you get down there and then the REAL wedding coordinator picks up. She's been prompt, but not necessarily helpful (i.e. just requoting things out of the sales kit, which isn't helpful since if I liked the answer I was given in the sales kit, I wouldn't be asking what other alternative arrangements were available!). Do you know which resort in St. Lucia you're getting married at? Speaking of the sales kit, if you want is send me a PM and I can email it to you.

I think that would be awesome. I'm up for anytime in August other than the 7th through the 15th, FI and I will be in Puerto Rico on a much needed vacation!

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But I wonder if you just went through with the marriage (rather than the renewal of vows) and then got "remarried" in the US, what the effect would be? The resort also said that the renewal of vows will be different wording from the actual wedding, like instead of "Do you take Sally to be your wife?" It will be "Do you continue to take Sally as your wife?" so I guess hiding it may be difficult too...

FI and I have always planned on getting married in the US before the DW, but like a lot of brides, we want to keep it to ourselves, so people don't feel like they came to St. Lucia for "nothing". (My FI who is reading over my shoulder would like me to point out that the prior sentance makes it sound like we're both brides and requests that I clarify, that he is a groom to be and I am a bride to be...moving on.....) So his question is if its possible to have the wedding ceremony in St. Lucia and then come back to the US and have the "legal ceremony". I mean, it's not bigamy, since we're marrying the same person. I just wasn't sure if anyone knew the reason people do it before?

I posted a thread about this a week or so ago. I'm doing a website and word of mouth only and I don't think it's tacky. The consensus I got was that it's your wedding do what you want! I personally much prefer to get stuff electronically rather than in the mail. I throw mail away, I don't throw my emails away.

FI does NOT know what I weigh and he knows better than to ask. I'm 5'10 barefoot and he's about 5'8". When I was at my smallest (which I was when I met him) he started the "how much do you weigh" convo by telling me. It was less than me! So I did what ANY rational woman would do, I burst into tears (on the way to work no less) and told him we had to break up. Once he calmed me down, I decided against that course of action and instead decided to fatten him up. Needless to say, I don't think we'll have that convo again. Oh and as a side note, I am SOOOO glad to hear that the Wii Fit says "ouch" when someone else gets on the scale. I was REALLY upset by that the first few times.

LOL my fiancee and I are both attorneys and have had this comical debate ad nauseum. We finally did some research on the topic and the answer is....it depends. It depends on what state you live in and when you were given the ring. Ownership of personal property is determined by state law, either the state the ring was given in or the state that he sues to get it back in. Most states will make you give it back. That being said, if you got the ring around a holiday (such as Christmas, your birthday) or any other special day (like your year anniversary etc) states are almost uniformly in agreement that that sucker is yours! Ugh, I just realized I'm really a nerd and that was way more info than anyone ever wanted