I hear you for sure. We went back and forth and still are, even though we signed on for a symbollic. My feelings for symbollic are: less hassle amid alllll the other hassles, no translation, get the time you want, more romantic less legal (you can modify the script at some resorts, write own vows, etc where as legal ceremonies have to be just so), and I can't think of others right now . I just like saving a few bucks and sweat! THEN future MIL comes in and says it won't be the same, blah blah blah and got Fiance all worked up too. In the end it's the ceremony, the peope around you, and the vows of forever that make the wedding... IMO!!! Good luck!