Guys are so strange sometimes. They want to act all macho, but then want to nitpick over the girliest things. I'm sorry your FI is having to deal with this, it sounds like the friends are just immature. Makes me wonder why they are even getting married if it is all about the people watching them get married instead of the bride and groom. Besides, the "destination" groom gets to spend several days with his guests while the "regular" groom gets to spend maybe 5 minutes at dinner with his guests... who wins now ;-p OK, I'll stop being catty. Ignore the nonsensical comments and strengthen your united front like Monique said. Remember what goes around comes around so take a positive spin on everything and your wedding will turn out perfect PS... The guys in our wedding fought over the flip flops they were going to wear. Yep. Seriously.