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Hello Ladies~ I have a beautiful white gown size 6 that I purchased, but I have found one I love more (Yes I've become that bride:) It is a mermaid style gown. It has a glitter design down the front with a layered tulle bottom. There are white and silver beads along the top of the skirt. It is strapless and has a low back. I paid $550 at a boutique in Chicago while on vacation. I does not have the tags, but I only wore it to try it on. I will consider any reasonable offer. I'm not exactly sure how to post pictures, sorry new and not very computer savvy LOL, but if you would like to pm me I'd be glad to email you some. Thanks so much for looking!

I did buy my dress online, actually so far I've bought two. And now I'm looking for a third I went by the measurements that they said, but the gowns never fit, not even close. And to have them tailored will cost me upwards of $500. So I am starting back at square one. I am going to start looking at prom dresses, alot come in white and they're not your traditional wedding dress. I'm sure some women have had good luck online...just not meLOL My FI is going to wear linen pants and a dress shirt. He originally thought he'd wear a suit, but we think it will just be too hot and he doesn't want to be uncomfortable. Good Luck!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by McToasty hey babe, i just wanted to share a quotation that i absolutely love, and encapsulates what i want, and am so glad i found, in a relationship. a few years ago i stayed in this crappy relationship for much longer than i should have. he made me feel like i could never match up to the girls around him, that i didn't treat him well enough, and just.. not good! in the end, i realized that it doesn't matter how much i cared about him. i needed a relationship that wasn't just based on a one-sided love, but one that was reciprocated and based on trust, communication and all that good stuff. one of my friends is actually dating someone who said the exact same thing your FI said to you. he said he was embarrassed to bring her out, that's why she only met his friends for the first time recently after 4 1/2 years of dating. as many other girls have said, only you know what's best for you. but we're here if ever you need. “Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'†~~~Thank you~~~

I appreciate everyone's support, concern, and advice. And I know that a lot of what you are saying is 100% correct. I can't remember who said that I will never forget that he said he was embarrassed of me, you are right. It has kind of just stuck in my head. I won't forget it, but I will try to forgive. Why he said it, honestly I don't know. He says he said it out of anger in the middle of an argument, but that still doesn't make it ok. I do love him and I believe that for all the wonderful things that we have in our relationship that he does deserve a second chance. And that is what I'm trying to give him right now. I don't know what the future will bring, I hope it will be a healed heart and a wonderful lifelong marriage, but I am not blind to the fact that it will take work from both of us. There are things that are not optional that he will have to change, and I will have to learn how to forgive him and move on. For the wedding, right now I'm not going to think about that right now. I need to give it some time before I know for sure, because only time will tell if things truly change. Thank you again for everything. It is helpful to hear from people who don't have a vested interested in the situation.

Ladies Thank you so much for all of your advice, encouragement and support. I guess I should have clarified a few things. What I meant by saying that things would change after we were married is that the company he works for is large so for most events you can only bring someone if you are married. And now that we're engaged I thought it would be different in regards to that. But either way, I was really hurt by everything that happened and was really surprised when everything blew up the way it did, because I didn't see it coming. I spoke to him a little yesterday. He came home during the day so we could talk while the kids were at school. He apologized, and I forgive him, but I also told him that at this point I just need a little time to really clear my head before I make any life-changing decisions. I told him what I thought and how it was completely unacceptable. He says they will and understands that nothing he says will prove that, only time and actions. All I can do now really is wait to see. Thank you again everyone .

Really I'm not sure. He invited me to a dinner with him and his colleges (which for the most part I can't go because of babysitter reasons, honestly I've never been to go in the 3 years he has been with the company) but today I could. As soon as I said I could he stumbled around and said he would have to call me back. When he did he said sorry he was mistaken, I was no longer invited. Each time it always is like this. I was hurt because a few months ago he said he was embarrassed of me. When we decided to get married he said things would be different, but there not. When he uninvited me my feelings were hurt. He then told me I wasn't understanding and he didn't want to marry someone like me. I'm crushed. I don't even know what to say. I'm embarrassed to tell the people close to me. Thank you so much for listening. We really do (as far as I knew) had a great relationship. I just don't know what to do now...I'm so hurt

I don't even know what to write. We have an amazing relationship. We got into a small argument about his work(which he lied about), and he told me to give him his ring back. He said it more then once, so I had to. This is the one thing we said we would never do. I feel like I'm dying inside. I don't know what to do or where to turn. I'm sorry for posting such a negative post but I'm so lost right now. Our wedding is already planned and payed for. And I don't know where to go next. As silly as it sounds I don't even know who I am without him....Thanks for listening, and its not just as easy as walking away...we have kids. I didn't even know there was a problem. Any advice on how to deal would be great.TIA~~~

I'm so glad i found this I am also a 32DD/DDD Any suggestions on a backless/strapless bra that minimizes? My dress is also strapless with a low back and everything I've tried really pushes me up. I would like to be a bit more conservative on my wedding day. While there is no hiding the fact that I'm busty, I don't think this is the place to really show my sex appeal LOL!!! Also a few of the bras I have tried kind of show through my mermaid gown, any suggestions? TIA~~~

Welcome from one newbie to another! I am getting married at Breezes Runaway Bay. Not too far from Ocho Rios. Are you looking for a resort or just a wedding venue? Good Luck and Happy planning!!!

Welcome! I'm also a Jamaican Bride, but different resort. Good Luck and happy planning

Quote: Originally Posted by yoAzul We finally decided! FI's mom will be reading this: Union by Robert Fulghum You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with “When we’re married†and continued with “I will and you will and we willâ€- those late night talks that included “someday†and “somehow†and “maybeâ€- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “ You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.†Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife. Wow this is amazing!!! I love this!!

Ok well I'm really having a hard time planning this whole AHR thing We are paying for everything, so I need to keep the budget down. For those of you who planned smaller parties, how did you limit the guest list without hurting anyone's feelings? And when did you send out the invites if you had a delayed reception?

Well I too am going to go against the norm here and say no it's not selfish. First and foremost this is the one and only time that it's about you and your FI. you should do what your heart desires. You could do something special before or after with him. I am a mom of 5 and I will not be taking our children with us. I'm like the OP, no one else is going except us, so I don't feel as though we will be excluding our kids. We will have a small ahr when we return. We are making them a big part of that, and really that's what my kids are most excited about anyway You can look at things from both sides and it will be whatever you make of it....positive or negative. Good Luck with your decision.

1: What is your current job, and if you had to switch careers, what would the other career be? I'm a mom and I wouldn't change it for the world 2: What is your favorite hobby? Cooking 3: What is your favorite holiday, and why? I like all of them...I'm a total dork! 4: What is your greatest achievement? being a mom 5: What is your favorite animal... and why? dog, I love my Baxter 6: What is your dream trip? I can't wait for my wedding in Jamaica 7: What is your fav food? Lamb chops...yum 8: Who has made the biggest impact in your life? My son, in his little life he has already conquered so much 9: If you were a crayola crayon, what color would you be, and why? Pink, it's my favorite color 10: If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? Anywhere warm 11: How many siblings do you have? Alot 4 brothers and 1 sister 12: What is your biggest fear? Now..that I will never get this ahr planned 13: What’s your favorite holiday dish you make for your family? Probably quiche on Christmas morning 14: Do you have a nickname? Stupid...LOL it's realing enduring 15: What causes do you support? March of Dimes, my son was a preemie so it holds a special place in my heart 16: What is your guilty pleasure? Cupcakes 17. If you could have one special power, what would it be & why? To fly, that would be awesome LOL 18. How old are you? 28 19. If you won the lottery (hundreds of millions) what would you do? Buy a house, car, take an amazing vacation, take care of my family, and invest!!! 20. What gadget do you not need, but still want? I would like to have a navagation, even though I don't drive much 21. What is your favorite T.V. show? I love reality tv. Its nothing like reality and that's what I love 22. When did you know that FI was "the One?" Right away, I loved who I was when I was with him, he just made me better 23. What is your favorite item of clothing? Bathing suits, I have a weekness 24. How many or do you want children? 5 25. Have you ever met anyone famous? If so, who? I have meet a lot of the sports teams. I used to work in Marketing 26. If you could be someone else for a day who would it be and why? My son for sure! 27. What is your worst bad habit? I take diet pills 28. What's your middle name? Does it have significance? Nichole, nope just what my mom liked 29. What's the craziest thing you've ever done? Too many to count when I was younger 30. What is the one thing that your significant does that drives you CRAZY? I think he's too hard on himself 31. What’s your favorite movie? Anything funny 32. Why did you choose a destination wedding? It's just what we both dreamed of 33. How long were FI and you together when you got engaged? 21/2 years 34. What person in your life really gets under your skin, and how do you know them? My ex/son's dad. He's a real tool 35. When and how did you and your FI meet? Through my mom LOL 36. Even with all the ups and downs along the way, would you still go through with your DW knowing what you know now?I hope I'll answer yes when it's all over! 37. Do you have any pets? A Boston named Baxter 38. If you could hook up with a celebrity for one night, who would it be? Honestly, noone. 39. What's your sexual fantasy and have you ever played it out? Sorry I'm not the type that would tell 40. What's the one thing other than FI that you would bring to a deserted tropical island? Margarita's LOL 41. Do you have any tattoos? not yet, but I would like to 42. Chocolate, vanilla or strawberry: Chocolate 43. What season do you enjoy most and why? Summer, I hate the cold 44. What is your favourite book? I have a few...the Great Gatsby, Catcher in the Rye, Midsummer Nights Dream, & To Kill a Mocking Bird 45. What astrological sign are you and does it represent your personality? Cancer, I think so 46. What did you do with all your time PRE-BDW? Well prob get more done My question...If you could change one thing about your wedding what would it be?

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