Vikki

Oops duplicate post

Well, I was going to say "unique" but that's already been said. It takes the right kind of person to be able to pull that dress off but it looks like it was made for you girl! You look so giddy just trying in on. It will be perfect for ya!

We're actually thinking about that. We only have a small group though so I'm not sure if that will work. However, the video you aren't able to see has very little footage of the actual ceremony that couldn't be achieved with a tripod and someone to just turn the camera. I don't think the camera used for this was even on a tripod, it's shaking the whole time. I just didn't want to have the extra expense of purchasing a video camera, but FI reminded me we'll want it eventually for that next big life event so we can keep the grandparents up to date :-)

Aaaackkk I'm feeling so behind. I've been rearranging my "to do" list for the last month but not actually checking anything off. Now looking at all the vows I'm starting to get into panic mode. Where exactly did all that time I had go? We don't get to write our own vows but we do get a short exchange so I'm starting to think about that. And the rest of it I need to really get pinned down and started this weekend. Anybody else totally procrastinating?

Aaaackkk I'm feeling so behind. I've been rearranging my "to do" list for the last month but not actually checking anything off. Now looking at all the vows I'm starting to get into panic mode. Where exactly did all that time I had go? We don't get to write our own vows but we do get a short exchange so I'm starting to think about that. And the rest of it I need to really get pinned down and started this weekend. Anybody else totally procrastinating?

I also would imagine it would be hot-if your dress is long/big have you thought about changing into a special dress for the reception?

IMO Salem. I like the way the shape of the dress draws the eye-it's very fluid.

Oooh I like!

I am not impressed. I really wanted a video but after seeing this I think I'm going to pass. MEGAVIDEO - I'm watching it What do you think? Would you pay several hundred dollars for that? (Oh and just to be clear-I'm not criticizing the couple-just the mechanics :-)

Everything looks amazing! I'm so happy you had a wonderful time and with the exception of the WC issues everything went so well. You look awesome girl! All that BL6 work really paid off.

I'm wishing for a happy ending....or beginning actually! What an amazing thing to realize that the possible love of your life has been your best friend all along! Hmm, I'm considering activating my FB account just to follow along..... We'll see just how juicy this gets.

Welcome! I wish I'd found this before I got engaged, I would have had a headstart on so much stuff :-)

Wow, I almost got teary eyed watching that! What a beautiful wedding.

That's why I became a 2 dress bride. The one I ordered just didn't make me feel the way I thought a wedding dress should. Maybe you could use it as a TTD dress and find another? Or find a creative alterations shop and ask for some ideas to spice it up a little. Either way you probably won't know the difference on the big day and regardless of what you do YOU WILL LOOK AMAZING!

Still slacking on getting a picture up-I'll try to remember tonight when I get home, but we decided to have our alterations done by the lady working on my dress. It's a very minor adjustment and the suit looks great otherwise. She said she was really impressed with the quality of the suit when she was fitting him for the changes as well.

Want to do mine too?? Those look great. I love the contrast.

I haven't checked this lately but I actually found 6, 6 foot bamboo poles, they're thick and when tied as a tri-pod heavy enough to stand against some mild wind. We bought an extra set of them to practice ideas for cutting them down and were able to find a solution!! We're cutting them in to 2 foot sections and using small lengths of PVC pipe sized to fit tightly where we've cut the bamboo. All we'll have to do is fit them together using the pvc lengths to hold them together. Total Cost: $85 - 105 6 Bamboo poles $20. (Found them on sale at cost plus world market) PVC $15 Tulle $25 Luggage fee (I'm guessing between $25 and $50 to check the extra box). I'll post a picture when I get home tonight.

Great advice from everyone else so I don't have much to add. Other than I'm having that day too....one of my clients brought me a box of chocolate to say thanks, how can I turn that down politely. And it's such a waste to throw it out......and of course I had to eat half of it. To my credit it was a little box but still. So just keep working at it, you'll get there.

Sexy! Both of you look great. I love the angles Tammy used, I'm sure the rest of them are even better.

It's stunning. Great choice.

You look great! I love the shoes....sexy lady. Your FI won't care about the shirt, I promise :-)

Quote: Originally Posted by hockeymom97 I have the same situation!!! Our DW started out as small and intimate. My intention was to have our parents, siblings and maybe a couple of close friends - we're talking a dozen people tops. Well as soon as FI and I figured out our date and resort, his mom starts telling people about the weeding and verbally inviting them!!! 1) I was pissed off, because I wanted it to be OUR announcement. I wanted people to receive our STD's and be surprised and excited. I didn't want them expecting them because they had already heard about it through the grapevine!! 2) Almost all the people she verbally invited were NOT on our original guestlist, but I felt like if I didn't invite them, then I'll look like the bitch. 3) Because she had invited aunts/uncles/cousins on their side of the family, I felt obligated to invite aunts/uncles/cousins on my side of the family. And I have a BIG family. Right now we've got over 90people invited. WHAT HAPPENED TO MY SMALL WEDDING?!?! Yes, I know I could've just not invited those people, but then I would look like I was snubbing them and I didn't feel like being the bad guy and causing more drama. Realistically I know most of them propbably won't make it, but even if some do, those really aren't people I wanted there. That's why we were doing a big AHR - that was my compromise. And now I have to spend my vacation with them?? So all I can say is if we end up with some huge guest list, FMIL better be ready to kick in for some of the additional cost since she's the one who wanted to invite everyone and their cousin. ok, I'm done venting for now - thank you for listening I think you need to put your foot down. Scale it back to just immediate family. (Sneak a couple friend invites in there too) but you don't need cousin Johnny and his brood of 5 showing up on your big day. I bet you many of those people will completely understand and possibly even expect your DW to be a smaller event with an AHR instead and won't feel slighted or like you're being a bitch. And have a heart to heart with your FMIL, maybe if you explain to her how important a small, intimate ceremony is to your and your FI she'll back off and you won't look bad. Or if you think that might come across wrong you and FI could sit down with her and have the conversation. Good luck!

Ok, here's the word from my God Father. Sounds like the WC is a little off base-that being said also it sounds like a true catholic ceremony can't take place outside of a church. So that means it's clear as mud: Hi Vikki, I haven’t the slightest idea what that could be about. There is nothing that I ever heard about or read about or studied that ever resembled this in the slightest. It sounds to me like someone did not get their facts straight. What does “sand†have to do with a wedding anyway. And what would it have to do with receiving communion. Is there some kind of problem with sand in the Dominican Republic? The wedding coordinator may be confused. The local authority for a Catholic wedding would be the priest of the parish where the wedding takes place. Catholic weddings should not take place in resorts, they should be in a Catholic church, in front of Catholic fellow parishioners who are believers who share the faith with those receiving the sacraments. Guests, naturally, are also invited to witness but unless they are active believers in what is going on they should not participate in receiving Communion. That would be making a mockery of what Communion is all about. A Catholic wedding can take place without a Mass. Mass is not a necessity for a Catholic Wedding. Communion is only available if there is also a Mass. Both the Mass and the wedding ceremony are considered very sacred. These ceremonies are not simply available for anyone, just because they might want it. It is for those who believe and understand what the Marriage and Mass Sacraments are all about, and wish to profess their Faith and commitment in front of God as part of the Faith they have been practicing and wish to continue to practice in the way they live out their marriage vows the rest of their lives. Occasionally I run into non-believers or non-practicing Catholics who think that getting a Catholic ceremony would be quaint and beautiful. The Sacrament that takes places at Mass and the Sacrament that takes place in a wedding is too special and holy to be “used†as a frivolous or exotic dressing to enhance a ceremony. Let me know if you hear any more about this “sand†thing. I too can’t wait to hear what this is really all about? Also, please let me know when and where your wedding is going to take place. With Love Ed

I agree, shorten it and wear it again. Especially if you love it (and it looks fabulous on you!)

Congratulations on your big day, I hope you and Joe and Cattie are having the time of your lives! Can't wait to see your review and pictures.